She's right : if you put a movie that she hasn't seen yet and wants to watch it, you cannot talk at the same time (that's why cinemas on a first date is a bad idea)
And why you say "split a bottle of wine" if you say "would prefer beer" on the next message?
The whole thing is simple : what do you want ?
Your goal is to send her some messages to reach your goal, as simple as that.
If you want to bang her on the first date, you want her to come to your place on the first date (and not to watch a movie... I understand the idea but girls will come to your place if the convo is good enough, better if your profile is solid)
With that said, I would suggest you to do a date near to your place (I prefer to do that because I am better when the girl is in front of me than over text)
If you choose that option, you can say : let's save the movie for later... what do you like to do when you don't work?"
From there, you can talk about good activities that you do, and get some topics to discuss more on your date
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Hit her with “let’s save the movie for later.. we’ll grab drinks instead. She replied and agreed to drinks!
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“What would you like to know?”
Let her get more comfortable and have some chit chat. Then progress back with some banter followed by another close after she seems more open to it.
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"No harry potter then lol. We'll just spend all that time sipping wine and getting to know each other"