So I just got done telling this girl some of my hobbies, and of course I subtlely slipped in the kinky activities line. However, I'm just a little confused about her reply. Is it correct of me to assume that she wants me to explain my "kinky activities"? I feel like the other hobbies I mentioned are pretty self explanatory, so I'm assuming she wants me to explain the kinky activities but not 100% sure. Should I reply asking if that's what she wants me to explain by saying "you mean the kinky activities?" Or should I just assume that she wants me to explain my kinky activities and if so, what would be the best response for that? I was thinking something like "Well, you know kinky activities like hair pulling, spanking, role playing, booty massages, chocking etc.
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Definitely talk about the kinky activities. If you focus on the more platonic activities, you will set a platonic frame for the rest of the conversation. If she doesn't respond to the kinky activities, follow up with "Or were you asking about to my less fun hobbies"
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So I ended up responding to her before you made your comment unfortunately. I responded with Col Col's suggested message: "Well, what do you want to know about them?" She replied back with "Where’s your favorite place you traveled to?"
To make it less platonic, should I reply with something like this? "Tombstone, AZ, and some of my kinky activities include hair pulling, spanking, role playing, giving booty massages, chocking etc." And if she doesn't respond I could say "If you're into that sorta thing"
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It's all good. Don't pursue the kinky activities route anymore, it would be going from 0 to 100 and seem forced. Look for another opportunity later in a message or two to escalate or reframe.
There's nothing wrong with small talk, you just don't want too much of it. You're not her little texting buddy, you're the guy that's going to take charge and have her screaming from all of the orgasms you're giving her in bed.
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