At End of Hinge conversation, she had taken 3 days to get back to me confirming that she wanted to meet Tuesday night. She was very much of the mindset of screw a lot of texting, let's meet irl. She was kind of thick and smelled like hippie patchouli, but I felt genuine attraction and she definitely did...when I kissed her at multiple venues, I always broke it off first and she was still leaning in for more. Lots of touching. Referring to "us" and "we should totally ( this and that) together". Closed down 2nd venue at 2am. In her car, wild makeouts and feeling each other up. It's so hot that I hadn't even been thinking sex tonight, but gently suggested it "um ..we could go back to your place if you want" and she smiled and said 'i don't think we should tonight ' and I agreed "yeah it's a first date, we should save something for later". Makeout continued for a minute then I broke it off with her still leaning in and I said goodnight...almost fell asleep in the car lol and texted her the š„ thing when I got home at almost 3am. It just seemed so certain she was down to hangout again that I did the last text yesterday at 2pm. I'm surprised she hasn't responded yet and am seeking advice on what to do now.
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Bummer. Alex actually pointed this lesson out to me, and when I observed my results, I realized how accurate it was: If I don't close on the first date, the chance I see a girl for the second date goes down dramatically. I think a bit of backwards rationalization can happen in a girl's mind "Why didn't anything happen? Were there no sparks?..." Even if it was her who was slowing down the escalation, and wanting to wait. This has been a frustrating lesson to learn, as I actually enjoy waiting and letting some tension build.
I also tend to not open with attempts to make plans on the first message. I try to build to that more smoothly. Sorry this one didn't work out (yet, could still pull through). Start with a bit of small talk, preferably a reference to something that happened on the date, like an inside joke
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Hey man really appreciate the response. I know a lot of guys have that experience where if they don't close, they never see her again but this has not been my experience. Would be the first time in ages that's happened if she does just disappear now. Yeah, I could have reengaged with banter and pleasantries, in fact I probably should've done that. Would you switch to small talk now, unprompted? Also - I now have a Sun night date booked and a possible Mon night date with someone who wants to see me but logistics are iffy for next week, and Mon is the only possibility...she might have tickets to a major event so if that doesn't happen we were gonna meet. I was thinking of texting Lauren "shit my bad, I can't do those nights it turns out. But I felt real chemistry with you, I want to see you again ". What do you think about this as well?
Edit: btw her SMV is definitely Below mine. When feeling her up, she is definitely overweight. Disguised it nicely with her attire. Has drawn on eyebrows. Piercing that I don't like and is kinda low class. Yet I still want to bang her lol
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I personally would just wait a couple of days from the last text, and say "don't be shy now". I think it comes off a bit obvious to take an offer back that she hasn't responded to, or to go to small talk and undermine the fact that she didn't respond to your request for another date. I think that you need to get to the bottom of her hesitation first