I spoke with a girl and we texted back a forth a bit and after a couple weeks I manageed to get a date with her. She wasn't a great texter really. When we meet it went very well, she wanted as many touches and hand holding and the vibe was generally great. Though now afterwards when I am trying to text her she is really low effort and I'm not sure if that's just her being bad at text or if she's not interested. I don't want to be constantly making an effort when she doesn't or gives only a little bit. Do you guys have any advice on what you would do here? Thanks in advance!
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If you look at on eof PWF's vids, he explains what might have happened here. If you dont sleep with her or at least make out on the first date she might come to the conclusion that she doesn't like you or prefers you as a friend over relationship material. It's possible she wanted a lot more than just hand holding and touches.
I'd suggest reframing and making it seem like you are the one who is really busy and make plans to see her again soon.
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Ah right I hadn't thought of it from that perspective, but it does make sense. So it would be best to just message her and let her know I have been busy but would like to meet up again soon basically? When you say reframing is it just from the perspective of why I have been busy? What should my stance be when texting until we do meet in person? Thanks for this George
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By reframing I mean: Currently it looks like she is busy/not interested
If you wait a day or so and then just say that you have been super busy with work thats why you havent been texting as much; you are reframing the conversation. I would then try get a 2nd date organised ASAP whilst the interaction is still somewhat warm but try slide it in smooth rather than straight up asking for it.
This only works if you're not acting super needy over text already which might be another reason shes giving you the cold shoulder