Met this girl last Saturday at the mall. We ended up spending 7 hours together, going back to my place, and fooling around a lot. She wasn't ready to go all the way so fast, but she kept saying how much she likes it/me, how excited she is, and how crazy this is. On leaving my place she was very excited and looking forward to seeing me again. One thing that will be important later: even though she looks younger than me (I'm 30), she told me she's older and didn't want to share her exact age. That's fine, I don't care her age. Initially over text she was very invested, sending long messages and saying she'd let me know that week when she can meet. My thinking was she's hot now and can cool down, so I need to keep things warm and see her again asap. To that end, I'd text her once every day or 2 to check in. Just simple stuff like how her day's going and what I'm up to, and if she engages, try to smoothly move things forward. Thing is, near the end of the week her investment started to decrease. Over the weekend she told me she was relaxing in some nearby town so I know she would've had time to see me if she wanted. And then a few texts in a row from her were just emojis and hahahas. So I called her out: "Ha, love the effort of your messages." And that's when it came out. "I'm a great person, but we're in different places in our lives and she doesn't want to hurt me. She wishes me all the best." Digging more, turns out she's 40, and "we're looking for different things." She didn't want to specify what those different things are. I tried to call, but she didn't pick up because she "doesn't see a point to this conversation" and "isn't obligated to explain how she feels." I told her I don't care about her age. That I've always gotten along better with older people (which is true) and that most of my exes have been older than me. She replied simply with "understood." So... I think this is dumb. I actually like this girl more than anyone I've met in a long time. She's just making assumptions. But idk how to fix it if I can't even get her to talk about it. How would you guys proceed? Happy to share the exact text messages. Also would greatly appreciate any opinions on what I could've done differently earlier.