(Screenshots included) A little backstory: We started talking on IG, got her number, then set up a date. We went on the date but there was no make-out or sex since it was an outdoor boba date but we genuinely clicked (I know, might be hard to believe). She seemed interested for a 2nd date but randomly fell off. Did I make any glaring mistakes in these texts? These are the responses I'm thinking: "I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type" (I like this because even though there's no 2nd date set, she was the one to suggest the 2nd date in the first place and we were amidst scheduling it. Also, she kinda "flaked" from our conversation. And girls generally don't like being categorized as some type of girl. ) "So is there a specific reason you randomly disappeared on me" (This can help get to the root cause but it also kinda admits defeat, confirming I did something wrong and that we're at the point of no return. Also, it kinda comes off as butthurt and combative. ) "I'm legitimately just curious, why say you had a great time with me and are looking forward to round 2 only to randomly disappear". (This seems too invested since she hasn't been responding and would probably work best as a last resort text. ) If there are any better suggestions, please let me know! Any and all help is greatly appreciated.

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Could be a few things:

  1. You're overusing the wink/smirk emoji and it's making seem like you're just overly horny and want to smash. And that's what I get from my interpretation of her comment "there you go with the wink emoji again" she is trying to communicate that you're overusing it and to tone it down. Personally have gotten feedback of this so I know it's a thing.
  2. Your responses were a bit overinvested at the end. You don't have to reply to every thread there is. Makes it harder for the girl to reply too. Girls don't want to have to think, when there's multiple threads going on, it's more likely she's just gonna feel overwhelmed and not know how to respond and end up not replying.

Also don't know if you tried but I would recommend always going for a makeout on the first date regardless of where/what you guys are doing.

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Thanks for the reply. What would you suggest I send her? I'm thinking "I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type" but I'm open to suggestions. And I'd be sending this message like a week later after my last text.

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That text is more for if you had plans set already. Haven't used this one yet personally but I like it a lot here "Weirdest ghosting ever"

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