(Screenshots included) A little backstory: We started talking on IG, got her number, then set up a date. We went on the date but there was no make-out or sex since it was an outdoor boba date but we genuinely clicked (I know, might be hard to believe). She seemed interested for a 2nd date but randomly fell off. Did I make any glaring mistakes in these texts? These are the responses I'm thinking: "I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type" (I like this because even though there's no 2nd date set, she was the one to suggest the 2nd date in the first place and we were amidst scheduling it. Also, she kinda "flaked" from our conversation. And girls generally don't like being categorized as some type of girl. ) "So is there a specific reason you randomly disappeared on me" (This can help get to the root cause but it also kinda admits defeat, confirming I did something wrong and that we're at the point of no return. Also, it kinda comes off as butthurt and combative. ) "I'm legitimately just curious, why say you had a great time with me and are looking forward to round 2 only to randomly disappear". (This seems too invested since she hasn't been responding and would probably work best as a last resort text. ) If there are any better suggestions, please let me know! Any and all help is greatly appreciated.

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That text is more for if you had plans set already. Haven't used this one yet personally but I like it a lot here "Weirdest ghosting ever"

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I was thinking that too but I feel like I'd be going 0 to 100 when comparing it to the last text I sent ("Earth to 'her name'"). I wish there was a variant of "I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type" like "I genuinely didn't take you for the ghosting type" or something similar. Sending something like that would seem less aggressive/ butthurt and more of a pullback.

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I don't think it sounds butthurt at all. You're calling out the situation in almost a nonchalant funny way. Short and sweet. To me, it's pretty light-hearted and "I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type" or similar s a lot more serious. You can't draw a boundary so seriously in this situation because all she's done is not reply to your messages. It's not disrespecting you in any way unlike if she flaked for example.

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