This is gonna be a little different than my usual shit. I was thinking a lot lately and I realized that there are 3 women in particular I'm straight up in love with. Hate using that word and I've done enough reflecting to know its because when I was younger I Proclaimed my love to a girl in a heartfelt letter that she proceeded to laugh at with her group of friends (all of which I knew). Im curious how you guys go about truly expressing to a girl you love her. Its like I know what I should say but i dont say it. And its different than just saying "I love being around you" or "i love you or x thing about you" or any other flirty line. There are girls I've wanted to just pour my heart out to in a fucking paragraph or in person and I honestly LOVE doing that but I'm scared to do so and have the girl think its weird or too fast or any other objection. Its like I can handle any other objection besides one that stems from me getting that genuine with a woman. Any advice would be appreciated. SOrry for getting so sappy and lame. Next post will be about fucking hoes I promise.
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Haha. Good stuff man. You're 19. A very smart 19, butttt yeah that's called infatuation. Or "feeling in love", same thing. I honestly think romantic love is a great thing and everyone should experience it fully and often, but at the same time it means nothing. Like, if those women fucked another guy and made it obvious to you, how much "love" would you still feel for her?
One of the women I'm seeing, who has treated me awesome, is genuinely bisexual and been incredibly transparent with me, when she didn't have to be. She has shown me her phone and everything (jeez I would NEVER do that lol). The way I can show her love is to be fully present with her, enjoy her company, and then let her be free with zero pressure to explore things with women. This is easy to say, but when I know she's going to a wild party...yeah. it's something that I'm committed to - giving her the freedom that I want myself. That's how I am showing love with her.
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And even more I dont really care if I end up being wrong and the girl does some slimy shit. I dont think that should stop someone from expressing thier true feelings. Atleast I hope thats how this game thing can work :(. Like its eating me up inside. I dont need to tell girls I love them and all the sappy stuff. Its that i WANT to. And when i supress it it just bums me out. Sometimes making me not even want to talk to the girl/s
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But what if these woman (1 rn) Primarily stay with me, i have zero worries or feelings that they might be sitting on other dick or going to crazy events (honestly I wouldn't allow it with this particular girl, call me controlling but she's fine with it), and ok fine; if its infatuation lets call it that. BUT, if it is why do I feel weird expressing it. The game lines are fun. The comfort lines are fun. The polarizing lines or fun. But me personally I love expressing love to a girl. I personally would like it to be a part of my general vibe and personality. My question is will most girls think its weird and if so how long do I wait. 1 month? two? Eight? It gets boring being the sarcastic, sexual, game guy all the time. I like passion, I think its what's missing from game for me to really make it fun. Ig my final question would be do you ever express your infatuation to a girl in game. Like straight up saying "I think i could fall in love with you" as an example line.
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When I was 29, I hooked up with an attractive 25 year old I met basically social circle. She was the daughter of a legit high ranking member of a major religious cult. She was not at all religious, and she Opened up to me beautifully in recounting some of her life events.
The sex blew my fuckin mind. The way she looked at me- crazy eyes, intensity like I'd never experienced (she was only the 6th girl I ever fucked, I was a total late bloomer). But she was obviously damaged to some extent growing up in that cult.
Her father wasn't even a bad guy in the sense that he broke away from it and put himself at risk, and his family at risk to do the right thing basically and get out.
My point is - she wanted to be able to tell me all that, but she needed me to be able to handle it, and her craziness, without losing my groundedness, my frame if you will. She needed me to be strong. If I had been able to, lord knows what would've happened, I might've ended up having kids with her.
She was magnetic. The 3rd or 4th time we had sex, I said, mud thrust, "I think I'm falling for you" and she returned that line to me, but not as enthusiasticly. Then if I read between the lines she fucked another guy two nights later. Then I took her on an expensive date including tickets to a major sporting event that were expensive. I gave the tickets to her to hold them. She i believe intentionally lost the tickets while we walked from the parking area to the event.
No problem, I found a nearby business hotel and reprinted them ( this was over 10 years ago). We had a good time, but after we had drinks nearby and she proactively told me "I'm not ready to be your girlfriend". I accepted that, but then when we had sex 2 hours later at my place, I felt such intensity that I said "I love you". She stopped us in the middle of sex, said "No! You don't". An awkward rest of the night, regrets expressed by both of us, a long awkward drive home, talk of "you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube" and I was just in pain for over a month afterwards, and I had literally only been on about 5 dates over 2.5 weeks. WEEKS.
I fucked up, but I was doing what I felt was genuine, real, and right at the time. I hope this perspective is helpful to you.
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Brother, I appreciate your sentiments. You clearly have very strong feelings. I want to clarify, you are 19? And you feel this way for three different women currently?
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I'd wait at least 3-4 months before saying I love you. Wish I could write more meeting a girl in 2 minutes lol