There’s always a chance, bro! We never say never, especially with PWF 🙂. Just gauging the two situations, the first one seems more difficult than the second, since you were literally flaked and ghosted on, which we won’t let slide 😉.

With the first situation, here’s the state of things. The underlying concern was never addressed. Most likely, you’ve given off the impression that you just wanna smash and maybe never meet/speak again. There might also be a safety concern but really in this case, you’d probably be able to get around it by showing a more genuine personality. So two things you need to do: 1) show that you’re actually not treating this as “just another notch on your belt”. 2) then pull back/ take away because this type of flaking is a no go :)
Something like: “You know, you seemed like a chill —- that I’d like to meet and see how we vibe in person. It’s okay, If you don’t wanna do this”

Usually I use “its okay if you don’t wanna do this” instead of “if you’re too nervous, I’d understand” for cases where you need to show more backbone. Since you already used one of them and haven’t heard back, go for something stronger, that might trigger “fear of loss”. So basically my recommendation is to mix, “attempt at comfort + takeaway”. A high value guy would give a reason why he chose to spend his valuable time with (insert name) but also show that he’s equally comfortable with moving on.

Now, for the second situation. Go for the reschedule. Also, you might want to try filling in more of a picture of how the hangout will be like (can’t always rely on the text work you put in already). Things like “btw, do you listen to ——?” Or even “how’s your Taco Tuesday?” Then when you get asked about yours you DHV a little and then say “picked this up for us ;)” with a picture of wine bottle. If you get the similar flakey behavior, drop the “it’s okay if you don’t wanna do this” line. At that point, you’ll find out if this is a time waster.

Hope this helps!
Cheers Bro-val Office