Matched with a girl on hinge, went out on a date and made out a couple of times. Things were then pretty sexual over text and we decided to schedule our next "massage date" at a hotel room (Because our place is not an option, we both stay with parents. Common here in India) and she was like "I've got 2 non-negotiables, I won't go down on you and no sex". BTW, I screened her earlier about her dating intentions and she was like "I'm experimenting" So I replied with classic PWF line "Ok. Do you hate sex or something" and she was like "No, I'm just not ready for it" so I took a takeaway and understood that the underlying meaning might potentially be that she is down only if I act cool around and not there just for sex, so I sent her "I get it, it's completely normal to feel that way. I don't come with any expectations, if it happens naturally great, if it doesn't I won't get butt hurt". After that we had some other back and forth texts again bit sexualized convo where I was teasing her about our last makeout and all. Did I handle this properly? And does this really mean that escalating things the next time will be v difficult?
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I have watched all of em, we booked a room and are meeting in a few hours, she still is very adamant about the No sex rule. She says she'd want to lose her virginity with someone she knows she has a sense of security around and is very emotionally connected. She is open to foreplay and makeouts but no sex.
I gave her your classic line "I don't like sex with any arbitrary conditions around it. I like to take things with an open mind and see where it goes"
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yea that prob wasn't the best line here, but if a girl is willing to meet you at a hotel you just ggotta be chill and persistent
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Ok
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Update* we spent most of the time making out, eating her out, cuddling and basically it was 4-5 hours of extended foreplay.
She seemed to get disappointed even when I hinted about putting it in or getting a bj. She said she's not ready for it yet and she wants to first have lot of public dates, get to know me and then see if I'm gonna be the one to make her lose her virginity.
I'm not disappointed but I'd love it if there was some mutual action.
Any advice on how to move things from here now?