Basically Ive been going out with a girl for 3 weeks now and we have had sex a few times and we are really liking each other. The problem is that I possibly might have ruined things because she had tell me she cut off guys from her life that could possibly be interested in her and today I told her after she was telling me about a male friend that tried things with her recently and that she stopped talking to that I didnt want her to have any male friends (in terms of guys she DM's or keeps a lot of contact) because I said I dont believe their intentions and that guys and girls can be friends. I told her she would have to make a decision if she wanted to be with me she should drop them and she told me after a small drama that she would. When I was hearing her tell me about the male friend story I got kind of distant and cold because thats a hard topic for me since my ex cheated on me with a male friend and I told this girl that. In addition to this she wants to follow a military career which will start in a few months so I know she would be in contact with a lot of guys which is something i really dont know if i could handle. Do you guys have any advice for me, was it to early to bring this boundary? Because she is being distant. i would love to know your opinion on the above questions

+1
8 Comments
8 Cmts
R

12 Posts (+6)

24 Cmts (+3)

R

12 Posts (+6), 24 Cmts (+3)

R

12 Posts (+6), 24 Cmts (+3)

Yea totally agree with you thats why it ended. What I will try doing with the next girl I plan on taking serious is in the stage where I am not her boyfriend I am going to be laid back and try to be non chalant when she talks about other guy friends and stuff like that but once she wants us to get in a relationship I will tell her that I can't get in a relationship with a girl that has guy friends. Sure, she can interact with guys in the day to day life which is something inevitable but the thought of my girlfriend having guy friends just makes me feel weird.

0
Mike Hunt Avatar

301 Posts (+29), 265 Cmts (+27)

Correct. If she can’t police her own shit then next her. It’s always best to come from the lover angle to get to know as much of the “REAL” her as possible. They gatekeep sex, we gatekeep relationships. You’ll notice that you’ll start getting more relationship requests when you feed her scraps (just have fun & don’t chase the relationship)

1
R

12 Posts (+6), 24 Cmts (+3)

awesome advice thanks bro

0
Playing With Fire Logo