Hey, I must say first I have been around for a while with a varying degree of ups and down in a general low success rate: most likely because I never went to get my pictures done by a pro and I usually am shit at texting still even if there are great improvement - and I totally realize how the pictured representation of you 100% also affects 100% all answer someone is going to be giving to you based on perceived notion of what she thinks you are. So bottom line, I suck big times. But I suck more than I used to so now I have no option but to get those pictures done. Unlike most of the very successful guys around I am barely making by - so going out, buying huge quantities of drink is a no go. Basically I have my flat, some booze. I also am rather bad at making money apparently. One might think - oh its just excuses: but at this point it is just very much fact. Also, and here is my problem I am trying to fix, i am an awkward person. Always has been. And hopefully will not stay that way. I have shitty parent models (both are even worse than I am), and never really had a lot of friends (didn't really care that much and when I started to care I really sucked at being a friend). So all in all my question is: any suggestions in fixing that? (One or many of those topics). I am also not bad looking, but not a model- average leaning on good I gain muscle mass easily and I just build myself a small flat-gym, I am going to bank on that on the next 3 months I have to much brain and I over-analyze everything, which makes me a natural super nerd - and doesn't help the awkwardness I am six feet, blue eyes, blond hair I have no sense of fashion, (and limited ressources) Same goes for home decoration - never really cared about it until now. I somehow always managed to have a limited sex life - which prevented me from becoming anything close to an incel I want to turn this around completely though. It has to stop. I will take any golden nugget on the awkwardness bit. Cheers, E.
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Thanks for that. I just still am unsure as of how to make money. I hardly have any marketable skills. as far as I can tell and, obviously, no capital. Gym and getting in shape is one thing I will act on, tinder profile another - but I really suck at integrating the content apparently. Going out without money and not having a proper flat are two issues. I do have a place of my own. My goal would be to rock my potential in terms of style, socialization and game much higher that what I can currently do. I don't know if something needs to jump at me or if it is jus something that will slowly build overtime. I feel however, that without a proper strategy for improvement, being it either game (in person and virtual) and loosing the akward shell, they are almost doomed to failure. Its a vicious circle. How am I supposed to find a strategy to change something I don't know how to change. Reasonably it's either going to be through sheer luck or outside influence. Anyways, i'll most likely get back to ya in a bit, especially when this thing about people being sick slows down.
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Two things I am already doing, I am in the progress in getting into a coding bootcamp. I definitely think that creating a business is the only sustainable thing to do finance wise ont he long medium-long term though. I am also reading, and have read, books I just dont know how to apply or what is woth applying so much of the self-help is fucking garbage and woo woo good feelings. The last book I am reading which seems to be good is about how to get rid of your ego to improve. But for everything that makes someone fun, socially calibrated, masculine (some would say alpha), I would be offer the help in any form I am not even sure I would recognize that it is it. I feel fucking clueless and that is the thing - no sensible amount fo money would fix that on its own and that fucking enrages me. I could go on but that is more starting to look like a rant than anything. I need an overhaul, I dont know where to start on the inner shit.