Girl and I matched on tinder a week and a half ago before July 4, tried getting her out immediately but for some reason that didn’t work. Distracted me with an unprompted nude that night lol. Have been trying to get her out after sexting but to no avail, even with another unprompted nude sent. Then on Fri I tried to actually set plans in motion but no response. Frustrating to say the least. Stuck on whether to use “don’t be shy” or “look if you’re not into this lmk and i can stop trying” as a takeaway here. Any thoughts?
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Hmm, you might be right now that I think of it. Bc we were sexting so soon I wanted to get her out ASAP to convert the positive momentum. She never replied to the “if you’re too nervous” takeaway from the other day so I’ll hit her with the harsher “lmk so i can stop trying” takeaway later today.
Saying that though, should I actually have used the harsh takeaway earlier instead of the softer one?
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No no, definitely the softer one first. That harsh one is last resort. You don't want to assert harsh boundaries too quickly cos it makes you look overreactive/butthurt.
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Gotchu. Well, I used the harsh takeaway today and she responded by unmatching me on tinder 😒 wanted to think there was at least a chance momentum could be revived. shame really.