Basically I said from the start "Idk if I fully support BLM" and my reasons were
not convinced that the statistics around police brutality (e.g. black people are 3x as likely to be killed by police than white people) are due to police being racist, instead of simply e.g. black populations are higher in poor neighborhoods (which could still be an issue to target since it's an aftereffect of slavery)
negative effects in society of making the world out to be more racist than it is (divisive, doesn't focus on the real issues to address like drug laws / education funding in black neighborhoods / etc)
And she was a typical human and got emotional about the convo; didn't care about my reasons, just cared about the fact that my overall stance was "not sure if I fully support" instead of "I support BLM because I support black people". In the end we had like 3 heated debates on it, in the last debate she finally understood my perspective and realized she was wrong the whole time. But softened it with "I still blame you 30% for explaining poorly.. and the rest... well I don't wanna take the rest of the blame..." and I let it go but brought it up the next day that she had an ego issue for saying that, and that's when she hung up and broke up with me saying the relationship isn't worth it to her because of all the negativity.
To be fair I've been thinking and realizing also that I got more beta as the relationship went on. As you know she was super sassy+testy from the start, and at the beginning I mostly dealt with that stuff by treating them like shit tests (teasing back, not taking it too seriously, etc). But as the relationship went on, in my head I assumed the tests would stop and we could just be normal with each other (which we could in a lot of ways). So e.g. at the end there when she said "I still blame you 30% and I don't wanna take the rest of the blame" I could've treated it lighthearted like "oh really? so I get the blame but you get none" with a smirk, but instead I brushed it off in the moment ("It's ok we don't have to quantify it, let's just move on and be happy we resolved this") and then brought it up the next day ("You do have a bit of an ego issue"). I'm realizing this because she brought up not too long ago that things she used to say in the beginning didn't bother me, but nowadays more things she says bother me. And didn't realize until now that it could be, I first got her by being alpha, and then I stopped being as alpha in the way I dealt with her shit tests, not recognizing them as things I could treat as shit tests.
I also told her a few days before the breakup that it "hurt me" that she'd considered breaking up over the BLM stuff, that it made me feel like she didn't value the rest of our relationship enough. Again the bluepill self assuming I could be authentic but in the end the dynamic got skewed with that beta side of me. Unfortunate because if I get super close to a girl like that, and feel I have a deep connection with her, it makes sense that it hurts if they would break up over something small like a political disagreement. But in the end it's not a healthy dynamic for the girl to want to break up over something stupid and the guy saying "it hurts that you would want to break up with me over that".
I knew we'd end sometime (she had pretty big personality flaws, like the above BLM retardedness) but figured we'd have a much longer relationship than we did. Still learning as I go. I know you say game stops when you fuck the chick but I do feel like betaness was at play here in the breakup, alongside other possible factors. Just a few days before the breakup she said "all I want is to live with you somewhere" and "please don't stop loving me, that'd be so sad" so it's not like she just wasn't into me enough, I don't think... Think I just may have flipped off the hypergamy switch
i would have just said "that's okay, i blame you 69%" like you said man, you can't take shit a girl says to seriously especially since they've been sassy from the start. Also, you definitely don't want to call out things like that over text. That kind of thing should have been done in person. Lastly, i learned you can't talk about politics with liberal chicks. THey just get super triggered and defensive no matter how articulate and factual you are. Personally, on most issues im very much on the left however, i have no problem having friendly debates with people on the far right. But i am an exception. Literally every single one of these other chicks cant even have a basic conversation with people with slightly different views. That was the case with the karla chick from the videos. That was the big reason why our little youtube and pornhub collaboration ended. One night i made the mistake of gauging her about politics and after 10 mins she got super triggered then said i was part of the problem and stormed out of my place.
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damn, i would be very curious to listen to one of these BLM fights
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Basically I said from the start "Idk if I fully support BLM" and my reasons were
And she was a typical human and got emotional about the convo; didn't care about my reasons, just cared about the fact that my overall stance was "not sure if I fully support" instead of "I support BLM because I support black people". In the end we had like 3 heated debates on it, in the last debate she finally understood my perspective and realized she was wrong the whole time. But softened it with "I still blame you 30% for explaining poorly.. and the rest... well I don't wanna take the rest of the blame..." and I let it go but brought it up the next day that she had an ego issue for saying that, and that's when she hung up and broke up with me saying the relationship isn't worth it to her because of all the negativity.
To be fair I've been thinking and realizing also that I got more beta as the relationship went on. As you know she was super sassy+testy from the start, and at the beginning I mostly dealt with that stuff by treating them like shit tests (teasing back, not taking it too seriously, etc). But as the relationship went on, in my head I assumed the tests would stop and we could just be normal with each other (which we could in a lot of ways). So e.g. at the end there when she said "I still blame you 30% and I don't wanna take the rest of the blame" I could've treated it lighthearted like "oh really? so I get the blame but you get none" with a smirk, but instead I brushed it off in the moment ("It's ok we don't have to quantify it, let's just move on and be happy we resolved this") and then brought it up the next day ("You do have a bit of an ego issue"). I'm realizing this because she brought up not too long ago that things she used to say in the beginning didn't bother me, but nowadays more things she says bother me. And didn't realize until now that it could be, I first got her by being alpha, and then I stopped being as alpha in the way I dealt with her shit tests, not recognizing them as things I could treat as shit tests.
I also told her a few days before the breakup that it "hurt me" that she'd considered breaking up over the BLM stuff, that it made me feel like she didn't value the rest of our relationship enough. Again the bluepill self assuming I could be authentic but in the end the dynamic got skewed with that beta side of me. Unfortunate because if I get super close to a girl like that, and feel I have a deep connection with her, it makes sense that it hurts if they would break up over something small like a political disagreement. But in the end it's not a healthy dynamic for the girl to want to break up over something stupid and the guy saying "it hurts that you would want to break up with me over that".
I knew we'd end sometime (she had pretty big personality flaws, like the above BLM retardedness) but figured we'd have a much longer relationship than we did. Still learning as I go. I know you say game stops when you fuck the chick but I do feel like betaness was at play here in the breakup, alongside other possible factors. Just a few days before the breakup she said "all I want is to live with you somewhere" and "please don't stop loving me, that'd be so sad" so it's not like she just wasn't into me enough, I don't think... Think I just may have flipped off the hypergamy switch
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i would have just said "that's okay, i blame you 69%" like you said man, you can't take shit a girl says to seriously especially since they've been sassy from the start. Also, you definitely don't want to call out things like that over text. That kind of thing should have been done in person. Lastly, i learned you can't talk about politics with liberal chicks. THey just get super triggered and defensive no matter how articulate and factual you are. Personally, on most issues im very much on the left however, i have no problem having friendly debates with people on the far right. But i am an exception. Literally every single one of these other chicks cant even have a basic conversation with people with slightly different views. That was the case with the karla chick from the videos. That was the big reason why our little youtube and pornhub collaboration ended. One night i made the mistake of gauging her about politics and after 10 mins she got super triggered then said i was part of the problem and stormed out of my place.