I already posted on the Facebook page, but I wanted to cross-post here. Trying to make plans with this girl, it seems she likes the wine part but doesn't want a ONS. I visit the area fairly regularly (5-8 times, a year). So once a month or month and a half. Here is my ideas "when did I say I only wanted a one night stand" I can also add "I actually visit the area fairly regularly" (am there mostly due to family) Everything in parentheses is explanation to you all and not part of the message.
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I think your first idea is good, i think this is what Alex would say himself. I wouldn't say the second thing about visiting regularly
John Anthony's 3 hookup objection handlers for pulling in nightgame are 1. "don't worry i have no sexual expectations" 2. "whatever happens happens" 3. "i like to let things unfold naturally"
Not sure if he he uses these over text though, he might use the first one over text.
I think John and Alex also said before that, if they liked a girl and the sex was good, why would they want to see her only once? and that they might communicate this.
So you could go with something like "if we have good chemistry, why would i want to see you only once?" or some other phrasing that basically communicates the same thing
I'd probably choose your first idea, or "if we have good chemistry...", and if she still objects, "dont worry i have no sexual expectations" or John's third objection handler, but of course calibrate to what she actually responds with after the first text you send.
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@Looking for a Wing
Here was my response, not sure if the last message was the best or how to expound on it. It is frigid and cold here so the part about the balcony if figurative and meant to be more of a joke and be more chill.
If no response after late afternoon what would be a good follow up to not be too aggressive and needy. The Sunday is referencing meeting this coming Sunday btw.
I think the 2nd or 3rd objection could have worked to add onto the last response, but unfortunately I responded before you posted
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Should have inserted after her reply, something like I have no expectations and like to see how Things unfold, or if we make it to a second bottle.
Keep posting her reply’s try and be cheeky sexual switch frames on her objections