Some crazy shit happened the other day. I just woke up and I’m getting coffee at a counter, asocial mood, headphones in,bundled up for winter weather, back facing the rest of the store and all of a sudden this absolutely stunning girl quickly comes up to me, reaches over to grab something in front of me, looks straight in my eyes and smiles. I was startled and I say “hey how are you” she says “good how are you” pretty basic but the way she acted and her voice tone told me it was on.. she pays at the counter and I’m behind her and run out while she’s getting in her car. She’s smiling with her mouth wide open the whole time and the first thing she says is “do you come here a lot? I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before” she asks where we live she puts her # in my phone the whole interaction was phenomenal. We both leave for work and I text her when I get home. Starts off good.. quickly dissipated and I get left on read when I go for the date. I run into her today (2 days later) she apologizes for not answering and says she’s been busy. Convo is ok and at one point I suggests meeting at the bar next door that night. Too busy. Another night this week. Too busy. I tell her to Hmu when she figures it out. That interaction was meh.. they keep happening in the morning before coffee and before work and I’ve been walking on eggshells prior to this because I keep blowing amazing interactions with texting. Like 12 in a row that should be layups
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No person no matter how busy they are has no time for a date or to do something they want. Thats the key word here -"want". She isn't really invested. She is just being nice. Try to banter with her some more, get her to respond with longer messages, use voice memos and try setting up some face time. Find something she likes to talk about - fitnes, travel, movies, cooking... just because it's normal topics it doesn't mean it's boring. It's how you vibe, over something you both like. Here you are soft closing on zero investment. If none of this works just move on. Do not get stuck on one girl when there are plenty out there.
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Cool, what’s a good message to get the ball rolling again in this instance? This is my first post here. My approach was that she was investing a ton in person so I would go for the same night date and try to strike while the iron was hot
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If she doesn't respond to your last message then wait 2 days and send her the "if you are too nervous, I'd understand" text. That should get the convo rolling again. But remember it is really important you wait a few days to text her again if she doesn't respond to your last message.