So, Alex made a video a while back broaching this subject. He outlined the “what” of backward rationalization but there isn’t much specific content on how to actually manage it when it happens. So pretty straight-forward topic here. What is a good POA for managing and dealing with backward rationalization in order to salvage a situation and “get the date”?
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https://www.playingfire.com/what-is-last-minute-resistance-and-how-to-overcome-it/
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Thanks for this bro. I hadn't seen this blog post before but this is about dealing with LMR. I can see why it wasn't clear from what I wrote above but I'm talking about what you do when you've gone on the first date, sex didn't happen, backward rationalization IS happening...what do you do then to salvage the situation, try to get things back on track and secure a second date where you can hopefully rectify the situation.
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Ah. The first thing to do is get out of this mindset. When you're applying this pressure internally, she's going to feel that energy from you. Sex is the culmination of you both having a good time and her feeling attracted to you and safe to be vulnerable. Focus on vibing with her right through to the end. Some girls legitimately won't smash on the first date, some lie about it. You have to judge for yourself what kind of girl she is. If she says no, be cool, play it off and keep having a good time. It'll get you further in the long run.
For your situation, how far along did you guys get? If you hooked up, still send "that was 🔥" and let her know you had a good time(subtext is not having sex didn't bother you), and get on to arranging date number 2. This is for right after the date, so if you didn't, just keep the convo warm, and sexually escalate in a calibrated manner. If she's into you, she'll play along