Been seeing this girl for a month and a half. We've been on 4 dates and had sex each time. I realize I've been over pursuing her by trying to make dates, texting too much, and not letting her come to me. Her reply times are getting longer and longer, and she canceled our last date. Even though she asked for another date, she hasn't responded when I went to set one up. I feel like I have two options: Just leave the message be and wait to see if she ever responds Do a more "extreme" takeaway. Something like "Hey, I'd like to see you again, but I like spending my time with someone who is excited to see me and appreciates my effort. I'm just not getting that vibe from you. Take care. " I really like this girl, but I'm not afraid to walk away. I'm just not sure what the best option for this situation is?
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I ended up cutting it off. After getting into her accident, she said she would get back to me about the date. 10 days later she never did, so I just sent her a text saying I wasn't interested in continuing seeing her. She's been blowing me off for 3 weeks at this point, so I wanted her to know I'm not going to wait around for her. Maybe she'll come back later, who knows, but I feel a lot better about now
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What made you feel better? The fact that you sent her the message, or the fact that you've created your own closure and have 'moved on'? Asking because I'm in a similar situation, and its really bothering me.
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That I'm no longer waiting on somebody who clearly has zero interest in me anymore, and is just using me for attention and a backup in case she doesn't find something better. It shows her and myself that I have some self-respect. It signals attractive qualities that makes her more likely to come back eventually, but I honestly don't care if she does. If she comes back, it's just a bonus