So yesterday I set up a public date near a mall close to me with this girl I had been speaking to online for roughly 2 weeks or so. There were no red flags online and she actually seemed like a nice girl. But before she agreed to meet up she would say that “She’s abit nervous” and that she dosent meet people very often but I reassured her and she was fine with meeting after. She even ubered it to me because she lived abit further away. So we met for like around an hour, she was abit quieter but I would carry the convo and make her vibe and it was going fine, but I had to go to the toilet quickly so I went into it and came back out and she was nowhere to be seen.. at this point I knew she probably just ghosted because she wasn’t answering my text or call, so I just made my way back home. I’ve never had this happen to me EVER before.. usually whenever I meet a girl off tinder or any of the other apps it always goes smoothly. But this situation is starting to make me feel insecure/ ruining my confidence and flow because I’m thinking she basically rejected me on the date lol.. And now this incident has just ruined my flow and I don’t feel comfortable meeting any new girls on the apps for abit. Any tips on how to get over it or what could’ve happened?
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Sounds like she's got some trauma or PTSD from a past experience. I don't think you did anything wrong but sometimes if girls have had a traumatic sexual experience in the past like r*pe, anything sexual, even if its harmless and consensual, can trigger things in their brain that tells them to stop at random times. I know cos my ex had it. My advice is that if you really like her you could probs try again but incidents like this will probs happen again.
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I don’t think she has any PTSD like that because she told me she only hooked up with 2 people in her life. But I’m guessing she’s just very insecure/paranoid about herself and left the date because she felt like I might not like her.