Really weird situation on date .. - any advice?
So yesterday I set up a public date near a mall close to me with this girl I had been speaking to online for roughly 2 weeks or so. There were no red flags online and she actually seemed like a nice girl. But before she agreed to meet up she would say that “She’s abit nervous” and that she dosent meet people very often but I reassured her and she was fine with meeting after.
She even ubered it to me because she lived abit further away.
So we met for like around an hour, she was abit quieter but I would carry the convo and make her vibe and it was going fine, but I had to go to the toilet quickly so I went into it and came back out and she was nowhere to be seen.. at this point I knew she probably just ghosted because she wasn’t answering my text or call, so I just made my way back home.
I’ve never had this happen to me EVER before.. usually whenever I meet a girl off tinder or any of the other apps it always goes smoothly. But this situation is starting to make me feel insecure/ ruining my confidence and flow because I’m thinking she basically rejected me on the date lol..
And now this incident has just ruined my flow and I don’t feel comfortable meeting any new girls on the apps for abit.
Any tips on how to get over it or what could’ve happened?
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It happened to me once. I think the girl didn't like your appearance in person. It happened once. No biggie. If it's a pattern, then it's an issue
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Sounds like she's got some trauma or PTSD from a past experience. I don't think you did anything wrong but sometimes if girls have had a traumatic sexual experience in the past like r*pe, anything sexual, even if its harmless and consensual, can trigger things in their brain that tells them to stop at random times. I know cos my ex had it. My advice is that if you really like her you could probs try again but incidents like this will probs happen again.
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Whatt she's very weird and disrespectful, good riddance. Unless this is the first time you're out with a girl, I don't see how this should affect your confidence, don't go thinking why she did this or that, some girls are fucked up just move one to the next one.
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Try to remember everything you said and did in detail. There could have been something you thought was fine but wasn't to her.
Also odds are her leaving has more to do with her issues and not you bro. Don't dwell on it.
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Yeah I remembered everything I did and said, and there literally wasn’t much I did wrong, apart from a time where I had to check my phone so I was just going on it here and there but she did look kind of annoyed by it.
I’ve been trying to get over it by talking to new girls but it still kind of stung a lil bit as I’ve never had that happen to me before. Because now I feel like it ruined my confidence and I’m going to be insecure when I meet a new girl.
However I do agree it was more of her issues, she did say before we met “I’m not sure if your going to like me” so she did have her own insecurity issues going on.
Any other tips on how I should move forward and not worry too much? Thanks man!
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Never let another person effect your self worth