Hey, there is a bit of a background story for this girl I matched with on Tinder. So this girl is someone I know of, not talked to in person. But she is someone who went to a neighbouring high school of mine (For clarity I graduated school like 4 years ago and we the same age). Some people I'm friends with know this girl, and I think she has the same reception as me. So cause I knew of this girl, I didn't want to use the "hey trouble" opener, so I would rather play it safe. When I matched, I left it a day till I sent my first message. The response she gave, I thought, was pretty good. So then I sent a text which I wasn't sure on, as it mentioned us going on a date, but I thought I could do this message later but thought I would just do it now. So now I have had no response in a day, so going to leave it for 2 or 3 days to see if she replies. But thoughts on the message and what I can do going forward? I have been quite bad lately of being a bit needy with messaging girls, with double messaging and that, so I'm trying to take a step back recently. Like I'm gonna wait if she replies but thoughts on what I could say? Is this savable? Cheers - Muzz
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Ok ok, I waited it out and gave her another shot on Friday there and I got a good response, thanks for that James. Think I'm gonna continue the chit chat for a wee bit and drop a hint of getting a drink together or meeting up by saying something like - do you like wine? or something later in our convo and see how she responds to that. Thoughts?
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can reply with something like this:
(say some good things (max 3) about weekend) . End with soft close or flirty line.
e.g weekend only got better after the lunch at XYZ. "Went (insert activity) for the first time in ages" "ran into an old friend, they had the cutest puppy (or cat if that's what she's into) ever!" I'm sure our post diss celebration next weekend will be just as amazing
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Ok, I'm at this stage now, which isn't great. I was thinking I would wait till after her diss is due and maybe try to reignite it as she has probably been doing that. But also like is there any point as she showing as not interested. The only thing that could save it is that I know of her, so I could say that "I swear I know of you, do you know XYZ", or can go with something along the lines of how her diss hand in went and go down the route of saying we got to have celebration drinks.
Let me know, thanks for your input
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it's likely she'll want to focus on her diss until it's next week. Have a lighthearted conversation with flirting and go for a soft close. Make sure the conversation isn't boring.
When the diss is over, go for hard close.