Got a first response, now not a second one - Help
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Hey, there is a bit of a background story for this girl I matched with on Tinder.
So this girl is someone I know of, not talked to in person. But she is someone who went to a neighbouring high school of mine (For clarity I graduated school like 4 years ago and we the same age). Some people I'm friends with know this girl, and I think she has the same reception as me. So cause I knew of this girl, I didn't want to use the "hey trouble" opener, so I would rather play it safe. When I matched, I left it a day till I sent my first message. The response she gave, I thought, was pretty good. So then I sent a text which I wasn't sure on, as it mentioned us going on a date, but I thought I could do this message later but thought I would just do it now. So now I have had no response in a day, so going to leave it for 2 or 3 days to see if she replies.
But thoughts on the message and what I can do going forward? I have been quite bad lately of being a bit needy with messaging girls, with double messaging and that, so I'm trying to take a step back recently. Like I'm gonna wait if she replies but thoughts on what I could say?
Is this savable?
Cheers - Muzz
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Wait a couple days..
To re engage I would simple say something about my week and ask how her week has been.. e.g just had the best sushi/icecream/chinese etc at XYZ, how has your week been
If you wait till Friday, you can ask if she has plans for the weekend.
Change topic, ask what she's up to
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Ok ok, I waited it out and gave her another shot on Friday there and I got a good response, thanks for that James. Think I'm gonna continue the chit chat for a wee bit and drop a hint of getting a drink together or meeting up by saying something like - do you like wine? or something later in our convo and see how she responds to that. Thoughts?
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can reply with something like this:
(say some good things (max 3) about weekend) . End with soft close or flirty line.
e.g weekend only got better after the lunch at XYZ. "Went (insert activity) for the first time in ages" "ran into an old friend, they had the cutest puppy (or cat if that's what she's into) ever!" I'm sure our post diss celebration next weekend will be just as amazing
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You mentioned the date too early and the message was too plain as well. Wait a minimum of 4 days then open her again
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I agree. Too forward. Give it a few days
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Yeah, I agree with you. I thought I was being smooth or slick, but kind of the opposite. Is this savable? After four days, any ideas on opening it, like should I ignore my last message or address it?
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Personally I like "Hey [name], guess what", I'd just ignore the last message