Some crazy shit happened the other day. I just woke up and I’m getting coffee at a counter, asocial mood, headphones in,bundled up for winter weather, back facing the rest of the store and all of a sudden this absolutely stunning girl quickly comes up to me, reaches over to grab something in front of me, looks straight in my eyes and smiles. I was startled and I say “hey how are you” she says “good how are you” pretty basic but the way she acted and her voice tone told me it was on.. she pays at the counter and I’m behind her and run out while she’s getting in her car. She’s smiling with her mouth wide open the whole time and the first thing she says is “do you come here a lot? I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before” she asks where we live she puts her # in my phone the whole interaction was phenomenal. We both leave for work and I text her when I get home. Starts off good.. quickly dissipated and I get left on read when I go for the date. I run into her today (2 days later) she apologizes for not answering and says she’s been busy. Convo is ok and at one point I suggests meeting at the bar next door that night. Too busy. Another night this week. Too busy. I tell her to Hmu when she figures it out. That interaction was meh.. they keep happening in the morning before coffee and before work and I’ve been walking on eggshells prior to this because I keep blowing amazing interactions with texting. Like 12 in a row that should be layups
9 Posts (+5), 212 Cmts (+56)
You have very good texting... The teasing, the eloquence and the closing are all good.
At the end of the day, whether she picked you up or not, if she was emotionally available and interested, she'd make a date with you...
Heck, even if she was a mental fruitloop but really liked you, she would've made a date with you!
Just move on and keep picking up women 👋
2 Posts (+2), 24 Cmts (+1)
Ok so what I’m saying is, I’ve been doing pickup for about 6 months steady with many interactions. Game for 2 years or so (poorly). Of every girl I’ve ever encountered in my entire life (pickup or not) this girl showed more interest on first meeting than ANY. Is this clear enough? Lol
IVE NEVER HAD A GIRL SHOW MORE INTEREST THAN THIS GIRL ON FIRST MEETING
I’ve already moved on and have done more approaches. I just can’t seem to communicate this and it is frustrating
2 Posts (+2), 24 Cmts (+1)
My analysis is this, I waited too long to text her (9 hrs this happened before we both went to work)
My texting was too gamey
Torero has said that once a girl is down and hooked there is no need for wit or game and that you are more likely to fuck it up or turn her off. I was aware of this before texting her but it still came across gamey.
She was embarrassed by how forward she was..
I’ve encountered this problem many times dealing with girls. You work up their interest and excitement so much before meeting that the only place for it to go is down and it leaves them feeling self conscious of how they acted and they withdraw. ASD. Anti-slut defense. This has happened at least 3 times recently.
I’m also convinced this girl saw me many times because her approach seemed calculated, she looked familiar, and her first words before even an introduction were “I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before”
She saw me before we go to the same spot every morning. She saw me when I was in a better headspace and more confident (which would have been any day other than the one we met) I was feeling particularly terrible that day and her expectations could have also not been met as I was incongruent from my normal outgoing self at this location
9 Posts (+5), 212 Cmts (+56)
First, it wasn't too gamey, you were just making a normal conversation.
Second, it wasn't her "Anti slut defence" that got her not to go out with you
When attraction is present, no amount of reasoning will be able to persuade her NOT to hangout with you... attraction is not a choice.
What you're saying makes no sense "Her interest was so high there wasn't room for it to grow, so it could only go down"
You're just rationalising things because as men we're logical beings, our rational mind takes over and creates reasons for why this and that happened.
So don't take things personally if they don't work out, sometimes the problem comes from the girl you're interacting with.