Heey guys, i meet this girl 2 Monthes ago on feeld and we had a date and then we hooked up sex was really great and she came 2 times. after we hooked up, she asked for my nummber and told me lets meet again . I texted her after 2 days and told her lets meet next week, she told me she is busy. I texted her week after she told me she would love to meet but she had corona . I wated 3 weeks and texted her, she replyied that in the quarantine she lost the spark and didnot feel the urgent to meet . i thought WTF then why did she asked for my nummber. i told her no problem and it can happen and wish you happy life . That was 2 Monthes ago , i thought to give her space . I want to reconnect with her so what do you think guys , what should i tell her . she is 38 and me 26
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2 months is a while. When she said she lost the spark I wouldnt have just wished her a happy life. I'd say it's probably over but you can try to reopen her with "Hey summer lover" or something
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I texted her with how are you doing ? , she replied" good , why are you texting me again? " , what should i say now
26 Posts (+32), 186 Cmts (+99)
I'd use a callback to your first date. Think of something she said and say you were thinking about it. For example if she said she liked watching football I'd say something like "Was just thinking about the sexy football girl"
I disagree with @Bird of Hermes I dont think you look needy at all especially after 2 months. Also It is possible to hold your frame while still pursuing but it doesnt make any sense to just not try.
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Don't reply dont pursue. You are showing neediness especially how you described it. Also if you just had sex with her once its not an fwb... doesnt sound like more than once kind of sex.
I've noticed a lot of guys on here are so desperate to save the interaction.... why. Her coming twice and being on feeld... thats kind of mediocre in my book please understand not trying to shame you but 20 is more like it. Did you ever think that is regular sex for her..... and she wants more or that she considers regular sex to be incompatible to her... just some stuff to think about every woman is not for you btw. Accept that and this becomes easier.
However, sometimes you have to let her go but leave the door open. For the next girl... I date older women sometimes so they know that I'm that dude.
Also she had covid and you didn't ask how she was doing...and said nothing for 2 months... tf.
You had sex with her and you thought that was enough.. doesn't sound like you got in her head at all to me because she lost the spark. Tf . Maybe the sex was not as good.
Imo the interaction is done and you are making it worse when you keep trying. Next time if they are avoiding you... try putting the ball in her court... tell her when she gets time hit you up when she has the itch... then leave them tf alone. usually sexual women respond to bold honest men not polite guysvthat ask for supper.
Even with fwb a woman still needs to be locked in mentally... sounds like you caught her at the right time but I could be wrong about that.
Moral of the story, learn to let go. Stop accepting what she will give you and only accept what you want from her. Now get back out there and keep hunting.
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I thought it would be repectful message but you are right i shouldnot. I just wanted to give her space and time not to be needy but she was soooooo fucking good and i really want to see her again . Thanks for replying man