So screenshots are there (they should be in chronological order) and provided translations where necessary. Some context : she's 23, law student and participating in pageants We apparently matched before in Sept 2018 (or maybe just followed her and slid in her DMs, not sure anymore since it looks like there are parts where I unsent messages). I didn't post our previous/2018 messages anymore to avoid clutter and don't think material, but if you need it for context let me know in the third screenshot, after I asked her number (back in 2018) she gave it, I remember seeing her number there yesterday I'm sure. So she unsent it. Just don't know if she unsent it only recently, or right after we started chatting yesterday typo in my translation on the last screenshot, it should be you're so *active in dating When we started messaging on IG, we were going back and forth fairly rapidly. The whole convo was from 2-6pm, until my softclose which she left on Seen for like 4/5 hours She finally replied "Yes" around 10pm, so when i woke the next morning close to 10am, i sent the last message (asking for her schedule), which she's left again on Seen for 9 hours and counting So questions : 1) What to do/reply next ? 2) Am I justified in sending that reply tomorrow already, or is that just my innate desperation speaking and stick to 2-3 days ? My proposed replies (but let me know if you guys think of something better) : 1) Don't think too hard now 2) Don't worry, it's not a trick question 3) Did I make you shy/If you're too shy, I totally understand 4) If you're unsure, we can hop on a phone call first for like 3-5mins to do a vibe check Thanks and I apologise for the overthink. Normally after consuming so much PWF, I already know what to do next (i.e. wait 2-3 days, takeaway, etc) but maybe cos she's a personal 8/9 I really wanna get advice on here. But I'm aware that as a a pageant contestant she surely gets lots of attention (5k followers on IG)

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Ok a couple things here:

  1. The “took you while” sounds needy and you shouldn’t normally address a girl leaving you on seen for a couple hours unless it’s an extended period of time. People get busy, they do other shit, they forget etc. no need to really “call it out” as it comes across a little desperate

  2. You’re right haha you’re over thinking this. 2-3 days and a takeaway, that’s that. Either “Don’t think too hard now” or “Damn don’t get shy on me _____” or any number of other ones as long as you haven’t used them before.

  3. I might look to number close and get this off insta. Like you said, she probably has a fair amount of suitors trying to text her etc. on insta, my guess is less so over whatsapp or imessage.

Funny that you guys matched back in 2018 tho. Anyway, goodluck bro

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Hey bro, thanks for helping as always

  1. Knew it haha damn. In my head I thought it was justified by the context (i.e. quick back and forth, then suddenly left me on Seen for hours before replying Yes)

  2. Got it. Thanks just need a reminder from time to time that no matter how hot a girl is, nothing’s changed in terms of good game

  3. Yep, was actually planning to give her a call somewhere down the line to build comfort

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