I can get from match to date easily but I have trouble getting from the date to my bed. I just got out of a long term relationship and still new to dating. So far from bumble I've gone out with 2 girls (Sarah and Lisa). With Sarah, we went out to a bar and date went well, I invited her back to my place and she said not on the first date. We made out at the end and set up a second. Second date went well at a bar. I invited her back and she said she wants to wait still but she wants another date. We made out again and she left. Third date is coming up but I'm taking her to the park this time cause the bar is too expensive. With Lisa, I took her to the bar. Date went well and I invited her back to my place but she said she wants to get to know me more first. We made out at the end and she left. Second date is coming up at another bar. Both times I had serious make out sessions with tongue and grabbing but they both want more dates first. How long does it take you guys?
15 Posts (+31), 492 Cmts (+149)
The problem is almost definitely with your profile/vibe on the date. I used to have the same issue, girls saw me as relationship material.
Slowly I changed things up and I'm much more direct and sexual starting with my profile and messaging and continuing on to the date. Now it's almost always first date lays from online.
28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+8)
What things did you change?
I have the shirtless pic as my main profile pic. I have great cuddler in my bio. When I message I try not to come off too sexual. I've had some of that backfire where the girl doesn't respond.
So I say I like their style. And ask about them. And say let's swap numbers and set up a romantic date to grab a drink š. And then during the date I play tap them and they touch me and at the end of the night we make out hard core with tongue and it's arousing. Just weird they don't come back. Granted it's only 2 girls sample size but still. Even if they think I'm bf material you'd think they'd still wanna have sex?
5 Posts (+2), 372 Cmts (+206)
True facts that don't make sense to you yet: It's easier to have sex on the first date than the second. Bf material doesn't get sex, it's withheld to keep you keen while you develop feels and your capacity to pay for things is checked.
Stop having second dates at bars, you know that's going to end in disappointment. If she won't come straight to yours, cut it off.
15 Posts (+31), 492 Cmts (+149)
That seems promising but we'd have to see your profile to verify the vibe you're givng off.