A few months ago I went on a hike with some friends, and this cute girl was there. We talked a little, got along, but I was seeing someone else at the time. I recently decided to try yoga, and low and behold, this chick was teaching the class(fyi, these classes are full of good looking women). I asked her out after class last week, and she said yes, and suggested a hike. Said cool, got her number, and immediately texted her my name. I didn't get a response. What should I do? Appreciate your work Alex and Indian PE
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waited 6 days between texts? damn, did the girls stay interested? I usually will wait 1-2 days between texts and I also started heavily incorporating calling girls, which is now my main preference. At first I thought it was a bad idea to call, but just being real here, ish is manly as balls and skips 90% of the games. it's like, why swim in a foot of water when I can just get up and walk to the deep end. lol
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Normally I would not, but I was genuinely busy. Long story short, I saw her last night, asked if she got my texts and she pretended she didn't... lol. Just going to take the L.
You're spot on about calling. I like FaceTiming or calling girls from Tinder before we meet. I find it lowers the flake rate, and establishes a firmer rapport. Didn't call her since I see her 1x per week plus occasionally with mutual friends. Oh well.
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Ah I feel that. Still though, if I’d known u were going to see her I’d have advised u not text her at all and let her bring it up, and if she didn’t, as I was parting ways, asked what her schedule was like. Texting is the bottom of the barrel regarding logistics. Hope u don’t mind me picking this apart cus I see you like her, but she basically just used texts to find out valuable information about you. She can gauge two things by not responding: 1. whether a man’s happiness is dependent on her actions, and 2. How you manage bad behavior (are you a brick wall vs backboned vs pushover) do you give her padding to make mistakes, essentially. Nobody wants someone to come down on them hard, obviously I can’t say if that’s the case, she may be genuinely busy, but we all want the person who we look up to having. and so I personally choose to take the ‘busy with options’ route but eager to close the gap when necessary. She ain’t going anywhere, that’s the problem. If you guys commit and it goes sour, she has problems on her hands dating a student. It’s a risk she’s taking and may want to see who’s chasing who first. That’s why players rule the land. 0 commitment to fuck up her landscape. But again, she may just be busy and like you. She may be shy about meeting you. That’s the fun part about gray areas, and to be honest I enjoy them a lot more than I did in the past. Otherwise it’s just kinda like... I like you, you like me, done. I welcome the foul play, let her not text, because coloring outside the lines usually is her main defense mechanism to test, and it’s pretty easy to pass that test by just not responding. The rule of thumb for this is “you’re special to me, but I don’t need you”