So long story short, video messaged this girl twice. Very pretty girl with only had been with one long term guy. The 3rd time she starts getting super horny and fingering herself on video. She starts saying things like “come over now!” And then 3 seconds later “no not even on the first date no!” The next day she was extremely distant like 1 text compared to blowing up my phone and the following day nothing. I’m thinking she feels ashamed of herself and thinks I’m a player or something. Do you think a sad dog picture with the words “your making him cry” would be appropriate 3-4 days later? Or something like “Hey I thought we had great chemistry, what’s your concerns?”

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J

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G

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Yes. I run into this a lot, and will actually get ghosted from girls who get super horny before meeting. I've backed off of sexting for this reason, but now am landing dates with a higher percentage of prudes. It's tough, because I want girls to know that I'm the guy theyre fantasizing about, that I'm not at all intimidated by strong sexuality, without making them feel ashamed for wanting that nor completely giving away the mystery/allowing them to partially fulfill the fantasy before meeting.

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J

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How do you guys feel about this “I honestly felt we had great chemistry, obviously something is on your mind. What’s your concern?”

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G

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Personally I like it. I have a strong but vulnerable style, so I use directness like this

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