She was acting sassy when I tried to soft close her on Tinder, called her out, she admitted she didn't understand why I'd go on a date with her (I'm guessing she's insecure). Did some cold personality reading on her and it was spot on (nobody has ever read her like that). I make wine plans etc. Did everything text book about confirming the date the day before etc. We both looked forward to it etc. She's never been on a Tinder date (she says) and lives 1 hour away from me. She admitted to being nervous several times day before the date. Lots of reasons for her to flake I know that. Here's the convo.... Day of the date: Her: Can I come by tomorrow instead? 🙏 Her: Or let’s do today Me: Make up your mind ;) Her: Haha I’ve had such a crazy start to my day, so stressful. If tomorrow works for that would be amazing 🙏 Me: No problem let’s do tomorrow, you can make it up to me then ;) Her: Hahah I’ll make it up to you with my company xD Thank you 🙏 🙏 🙏 Me: Sounds good, see you then 🍾 Her: Yes we will 😄 Next day: Me: Gosling meme Her: Hi I won’t make it today I’m sorry hope you have nice saturday! Me: Breaking my heart now (her name) Her: Sorry 😞 Me: If you’re too nervous I understand Her: I just don’t feel like it... To plan is really not my thing, I’m more spontaneous and it’s hard to explain I know it sounds just like an excuse 😅 Me: Sure no problem, I’ll reach out when I got time again Her: Haha I think we’re very different with the planning but if we make it work some time it would be nice 😄 Me: It would wouldn’t it This was 13 days ago. Haven't talked since. It's an BS excuse right? I've never heard the "I don't like to plan things so I'm going to cancel" flake LOL Do I just reenage her and try and plan another date? Or hit her up with for a same-day date to see if she's spontaneous?
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She asked if she could chill tomorrow but then asked or today? As in the day you already planned a date? Lol. I guess in hindsight you should've said tomorrow you're busy (being Saturday night) so tonight is better or next week.
But when you asked her if she was nervous and her response is that she doesn't feel like it... I would just drop her at that point. She said she doesn't feel like hanging out with you and you're still chasing her 2 weeks later.
I guess you have nothing to lose by hitting her up but if you do then make sure it's a same day date. You're going out and if she's free she should meet up. Leave it at that. Then don't hit her up anymore after that.
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we planned a date for friday (she was going to drive to my place).
early friday she double texted: "can we do tomorrow" and "or no wait let's do today"
Since she asked to reschedule I thought cool no big deal (if a girl doesn't want to hang out the same day, I don't push it).
And the next day on saturday she flaked when I tried confirming. Maybe she doesn't want to hang at all or maybe she wasn't feeling it just that day I don't know.
the i'm going out will be difficult because she lives +1 hour away from me but I can try it. we'l
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I’d recommend the same day