Flaked twice by BS excuse (doesn't like to plan things?)
She was acting sassy when I tried to soft close her on Tinder, called her out, she admitted she didn't understand why I'd go on a date with her (I'm guessing she's insecure). Did some cold personality reading on her and it was spot on (nobody has ever read her like that). I make wine plans etc. Did everything text book about confirming the date the day before etc. We both looked forward to it etc.
She's never been on a Tinder date (she says) and lives 1 hour away from me. She admitted to being nervous several times day before the date. Lots of reasons for her to flake I know that.
Here's the convo....
Day of the date:
Her: Can I come by tomorrow instead? 🙏
Her: Or let’s do today
Me: Make up your mind ;)
Her: Haha I’ve had such a crazy start to my day, so stressful. If tomorrow works for that would be amazing 🙏
Me: No problem let’s do tomorrow, you can make it up to me then ;)
Her: Hahah I’ll make it up to you with my company xD Thank you 🙏 🙏 🙏
Me: Sounds good, see you then 🍾
Her: Yes we will 😄
Next day:
Me: Gosling meme
Her: Hi I won’t make it today I’m sorry hope you have nice saturday!
Me: Breaking my heart now (her name)
Her: Sorry 😞
Me: If you’re too nervous I understand
Her: I just don’t feel like it... To plan is really not my thing, I’m more spontaneous and it’s hard to explain I know it sounds just like an excuse 😅
Me: Sure no problem, I’ll reach out when I got time again
Her: Haha I think we’re very different with the planning but if we make it work some time it would be nice 😄
Me: It would wouldn’t it
This was 13 days ago. Haven't talked since.
It's an BS excuse right? I've never heard the "I don't like to plan things so I'm going to cancel" flake LOL
Do I just reenage her and try and plan another date? Or hit her up with for a same-day date to see if she's spontaneous?
118 Posts (+42), 716 Cmts (+312)
I think she wanted you to be decide for her, “or today” and at that point it might have DLV’d you to give her too much availability by telling her to make up her mind (implying you are bending to her time frame and doing nothing tomo), also she could just be using the nervous thing as a ploy to test your persistence, I had one recently put up a huge sob story about her love life and family life, I slowly DLV’d myself (hindsight 20/20) and after two great nights I’m gonna have to recover a little to get her back on track. (Pull away a little, use more takeaways, shorter availability). She kept saying I was the first this and first that ( during sex ) and I. Hindsight those were tests for me to say like “this is your job on daddy’s bed” etc. they just want that shit man. I instead played along and she saw that.
Yup maybe. Could a thousands reasons. Telling her I can't do saturday def wouldn't DLV me but I made the bet for satruday because she asked to reschedule. Oh well.
And yeah I type this out. Making these posts takes a while because I have to translate all my texts. But but it's so worth for the feedback you get from the guys here
118 Posts (+42), 716 Cmts (+312)
Do you type this and copy and paste? How long does it take? I do prefer this style though, very easy to read and would like to try my posts similar
28 Posts (+2), 62 Cmts (+8)
She asked if she could chill tomorrow but then asked or today? As in the day you already planned a date? Lol. I guess in hindsight you should've said tomorrow you're busy (being Saturday night) so tonight is better or next week.
But when you asked her if she was nervous and her response is that she doesn't feel like it... I would just drop her at that point. She said she doesn't feel like hanging out with you and you're still chasing her 2 weeks later.
I guess you have nothing to lose by hitting her up but if you do then make sure it's a same day date. You're going out and if she's free she should meet up. Leave it at that. Then don't hit her up anymore after that.
50 Posts (+39), 78 Cmts (+18)
we planned a date for friday (she was going to drive to my place).
early friday she double texted: "can we do tomorrow" and "or no wait let's do today"
Since she asked to reschedule I thought cool no big deal (if a girl doesn't want to hang out the same day, I don't push it).
And the next day on saturday she flaked when I tried confirming. Maybe she doesn't want to hang at all or maybe she wasn't feeling it just that day I don't know.
the i'm going out will be difficult because she lives +1 hour away from me but I can try it. we'l
118 Posts (+42), 716 Cmts (+312)
I’d recommend the same day