Some crazy shit happened the other day. I just woke up and I’m getting coffee at a counter, asocial mood, headphones in,bundled up for winter weather, back facing the rest of the store and all of a sudden this absolutely stunning girl quickly comes up to me, reaches over to grab something in front of me, looks straight in my eyes and smiles. I was startled and I say “hey how are you” she says “good how are you” pretty basic but the way she acted and her voice tone told me it was on.. she pays at the counter and I’m behind her and run out while she’s getting in her car. She’s smiling with her mouth wide open the whole time and the first thing she says is “do you come here a lot? I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before” she asks where we live she puts her # in my phone the whole interaction was phenomenal. We both leave for work and I text her when I get home. Starts off good.. quickly dissipated and I get left on read when I go for the date. I run into her today (2 days later) she apologizes for not answering and says she’s been busy. Convo is ok and at one point I suggests meeting at the bar next door that night. Too busy. Another night this week. Too busy. I tell her to Hmu when she figures it out. That interaction was meh.. they keep happening in the morning before coffee and before work and I’ve been walking on eggshells prior to this because I keep blowing amazing interactions with texting. Like 12 in a row that should be layups
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Thank you for your help. I can’t talk to people in my real life about this kind of stuff because nobody gets it. I’ve made a lot of approaches and I’ve been following pick up for 2 years. All I want is to be able to communicate this stuff with people who understand and to give me the benefit of the doubt that this girl came onto me. I have no reason to make this shit up. It frustrates me and I was actively trying to avoid interaction that day. She was very overt and I understand body language, tone of voice, eye contact, iois, and all subcommunications. I have a thousand stories of girls who didn’t show iois, girls that rejected me, and about 2 1/2 stories where girls were showing heavy iois that did not need to be opened and we both understood exactly wtf was going on. Please just take my word because I have nowhere else to go where somebody has a shot at understanding. That’s part of the massive frustration I’m feeling is that I have nobody to talk to who understands this shit or will take my word with what I’m saying.
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Also Idgaf about this girl honestly.. it’s the fact that I can have a smoking hot girl come onto me out of nowhere and I can’t even seal the deal. That is the frustration. The reason I was taking a break when this shit happened is that I had a long string of girls showing lots of investment in the approach, even more investment through text and I blew it every single time. I take a break and now a girl is basically saying “HERE I AM COME GET IT” and I still fail
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I'll take your word for it because I have no reason not to, and I also don't care if you're lying. Maybe saying you're invested in her is the wrong wording, it seems like you're too invested in the outcome. Understandably so, we all want to fuck hot chicks and it's disappointing when it doesn't happen when it seems like it could. The fact is that life is random and there are always a million variables at play. As someone else pointed out, maybe she's just really friendly, maybe she just wanted attention in the moment, maybe she was actually horny in the moment and it wore off over the day. We don't know. But if you keep putting yourself down and blaming yourself if it doesn't work out, you're going to always be frustrated with every failed encounter no matter how many cold approaches you do or women who fall out of the sky to talk to you. This doesn't seem like a pick up- related issue, more of a mindset issue. It's great that you're into pick up and want to get chicks, but the self development that occurs should be the goal in itself, not the outcome of girls/sex.