I have went on a decent amount of dates but every girl ends it after the first or second date. Either they say no connection or i get ghosted. One girl actually told me that I banter to much and another told me we have different humor. Other than that I'm not sure what else I'm doing wrong. I make every date laugh and I do make out with almost all of them on the date. Sometimes we even have sex. So yeah any tips on keeping attraction would be appreciated
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4y ago
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83 Posts (+17), 92 Cmts (+13)
see i thought it might be the sex thing too but two of the girls who I thought really liked me and said it was the best sex they ever had both were FWB for a while but both ghosted me eventually. one girl said i was a funny asshole if that helps.
with a few I'm sure there wasn't much sexual chemistry which happens i get it. I either make a lot of sexual jokes or almost none at all depending on the mood. Once had a girl come over and we sat on my couch for like 6 hours. tried moving closer but she moved farther away. still got a second date from that though
I don't think it is needy because I text back when I can (sometimes I take hours because I'm busy). I set up the date once a week.
But again idk there is a chance you could be right. Im just confused why i cant keep any girl attracted past a second date
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Why don't you ask the girls? There could be so many factors at play here, it's hard to pinpoint anything without knowing the interactions you guys are having.
83 Posts (+17), 92 Cmts (+13)
i have only gotten 3 responses. 1. she didn't like the dynamic. a healthy amount of teasing is great but she found herself literally preparing and gearing up for every response because she knew to expect something backhanded. I also said some things that rubbed her the wrong way apparently - she wouldn't let me know what i said though
2. felt no connection and we might have different humor. (although a few days before she sent that she was worried i was gonna lose interest in her but i reassured her that i enjoy spending time with her) at one point she was worried about meeting me because i might roast her to much.
3. bad at communication and wouldnt talk to her every single day or let her know i was busy. - i have never let anyone know i was busy though it never occurred to me to do that. she was also the one that said "im a funny asshole whose great in bed"