I have went on a decent amount of dates but every girl ends it after the first or second date. Either they say no connection or i get ghosted. One girl actually told me that I banter to much and another told me we have different humor. Other than that I'm not sure what else I'm doing wrong. I make every date laugh and I do make out with almost all of them on the date. Sometimes we even have sex. So yeah any tips on keeping attraction would be appreciated
Well first of all bantering and humor are great but no girl has ever wanted to keep seeing a guy because he was fun talking to. There needs to be sexual chemistry for that to happen. If you already had sex with them and they still don't want to see you again then it's likely that either you sucked in the bed or became too needy.
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see i thought it might be the sex thing too but two of the girls who I thought really liked me and said it was the best sex they ever had both were FWB for a while but both ghosted me eventually. one girl said i was a funny asshole if that helps.
with a few I'm sure there wasn't much sexual chemistry which happens i get it. I either make a lot of sexual jokes or almost none at all depending on the mood. Once had a girl come over and we sat on my couch for like 6 hours. tried moving closer but she moved farther away. still got a second date from that though
I don't think it is needy because I text back when I can (sometimes I take hours because I'm busy). I set up the date once a week.
But again idk there is a chance you could be right. Im just confused why i cant keep any girl attracted past a second date
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When a girl says that you banter too much, she means that you're not trying to relate to her. You have to mix it up. Genuine, playful and sexual. If you always keep it playful, then the girls will not be able to relate. So, you have to sprinkle in genuine conversation