Hi guys, Not sure if this is the best forum to post this, but I’m feeling pretty defeatist about the whole dating scene lately. I’m 29, 5'8", and in decent shape. I use Hinge and get a lot of matches, but for some reason, they never seem to go anywhere. I’d rate myself a 6/10—not the worst-looking guy at all—but I just don’t get this dating game anymore. I match with a lot of girls, we start chatting, and then they just disappear. We move to texting, and then they ghost or stop replying altogether. We even make plans to go on dates, and then they go quiet or cancel last minute. I don’t mind rejection—it’s a normal part of dating. But what I don’t understand are the women who lead you on. Why give me your number if you’re not going to reply? Why make plans and then cancel without a word? It’s really starting to mess with my confidence, and I’m just looking for some advice or insight from anyone who’s been through something similar. How do you handle this kind of situation? I have attached my hinge pics. Thanks for any advice.
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You might want to change opener to "can i be honest" "you're just my type" "innocent with a bit of a wild side" - sequence of replying after she responds. Or if she has a lot of selfies say "impressive selfie collection 👌". Go check alex's videos on openers for more. I liked the curly hair one, dont like weakness one, but hey it gets you response.
Next, "trouble" should be only used in opener, not just casually say it in the end as it makes it dissgeniue
Dont say "convert me" as it signals to her, that you're not strong mentaly.
Also every guy is saying cute smile and pretty eyes, so you should be more creative
What could you said better:
First pic: after her response: guess what else would be the best? What? Going on a date
second pic: innocent with a wild side
third pic: first message (reframe it): i bet you get tired making everyone play nicely... after that hint that you can massage her. Also dont say you want to impress her. Skip that part.
forth pic: again try with more creative response
fifth pic: i would say: i bet she (Taylor) cant pull that white dress as good as you instead of converting
sixt pic: after she ask if you're a good or bad cop: depends, i always got handcuffs ready
Hope that helps
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Thanks bro !