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Should i just plan something on the app? or push for the number? If pushing for the number, what should I say?

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She has 100k+ followers, so I don't want to move to IG. She's pretty hot but she doesn't have face photos on bumble, only on her IG. I don't think she's just looking for followers tho since she has so many already. She's in korea which is why i asked for kakaochat. What do i say here? I could just talk to her on IG but i dont have posts on it and I was using AI photos.

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The past couple months whenever I got out with a chick, most of the time when she's back at my place (either she came striahgt over or pulled from public), she does not close. It's like 20% close rate max.  The other night, I went out with a chick in public and after around an hour and a half or so got her to come back to mine. I was touching her leg during the wine, but didn't hold her hand or kiss her at all. When we got back to mine, she wanted a pretty thorough tour of the place, and then she didn't sit on the bed but rather on a chair facing towards me next to the bed (where I sat). We talked for another 15ish minutes before she turned the chair towards me for looking at something on my phone, then another 20-30ish minutes go by before I try to kiss her the first time. Then we kiss again a few minutes later, and I say she should come on the bed. She sits right next to me, and then we make out again, but she ends it this time and I think goes to the bathroom. I go to the bathroom after, and then she's standing next to the heater instead of sitting on the bed and she's got her purse on. I wrap her from the front and we're kidna just hugging, then she turns around and im like grinding on her, but then I think she says she's gonna leave because it's getting late, and I didn't try to stop her. I couldn't kiss her again before she left, she wouldn't really let me. I also tried setting up a second date, and she agreed to the concept of the date, but when I tried setting logistics she said "she had to think about it" like what her vibe was about me. and then she just kinda hugged me when I walked her out. Then she was clearly uninterested after she left. I think in this scenario, I needed to be more dominant and push harder for the close. I think this girl in particular needed to be closed on the first date. There have been similar situations in the past. It's just really frustrating when I do all that work and then at the last step I don't get there and it doesn't work out.  During this date, she was constantly trying to get me to qualify myself to her and being pretty annoying/bratty but not actually a brat, just like "sassy", I found it annoying. I don't think I could seriously date her, which is why I'm annoyed I didn't at least get to bang her. or be the one to reject her.  It's getting so mundane. I either just want a girlfriend or I want getting laid to be extremely easy, cuz getting rejected is fucking annoying lol.

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There's a girl on Raya who I can tell from her IG was active on it within the last month, but idk if she'll see my like since she might not be active every day and Raya's kinda hard to use. She has 100k+ followers -- we have one mutual, another 200k+ follower girl she goes to school with who I used to hook up with. My IG is private and has \<1k followers though, so I assume if I follow / DM her she won't see it. Should I try emailing her? Or should I just try IG first?

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Just got into Raya few days ago. Can I still use the classic PWF bio on there? Specifically: "6'0 | \[city] My passion is traveling the world and whispering \[language] in your ear. Strengths: dominant, grilling steak, expert cuddler Weaknesses: nice smiles, intelligence"

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In Jan 2026 she responded to an old story response I had sent in July 2025, then I tried continuing the convo on IG. Decided to just text her even though the last texts were wack, since she has 200k followers and figured she just missed it.&#x20; Thinking of following up on Thursday night with "sounds good? if not when are you free".&#x20; She takes a while to respond though, so I'm not sure if she's just waiting or something. I also know that she's been hanging out with some other dude since my friend saw them making out last weekend, if that makes a difference. Pretty sure that just means I should have texted her sooner in Jan like I was thinking. Lmk if my plan sounds good or what you'd send instead.

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I don't wanna do a dinner date ideally, but she also doesn't wanna drink it seems. How to proceed?

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long story short, i banged this IG model i met through a friend a couple of times in march last year. after the second time where i had some ED and also said some weird stuff, she wasn’t as keen to see me again. then i told her i got an sti and soon after that would take weeks to reply and give negative replies. in july 2025, i swiped up on one of her stories asking a question “what’s that for” or something (the photo was red light therapy. she saw it but didn’t open it and then a few weeks ago finally replied. i saw a few days later that she was flying back to my city to finish college. so i figured she went out of her way to reach back out to me, which meant she was opening the door to us seeing each other again. i didn’t see it for a few days so i just liked it while i waited to see what to do. i thought id wait to see if she was actually moving back in and reply to one of those and see what she did. tried starting a convo to vibe a bit an get her to invest more, but i think i have to just push it along and ask her out pretty quickly since she doesn’t seem to want to text much. anyways, do i just say “ah 2026, where a like counts as a response” or just keep pushing and say “how long are you back for” then “we’ve gotta make it count then ;)” or “cool, we should catch up soon”

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