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So after watching almost the entire playlist of PWF cold approaches, I built some courage to cold approach 2 women today. Ik this is numbers game but ig some progress is better than no progress šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø For context I belong from Mumbai, India a metro city and tons of events happening year round so finally I decided I will not give a damn about what my friends think or what the women I'm approaching feels, I just wanted to do it to get it out of my system and get in the flow state. 1st approach: Her eyes made me walk up to her and compliment her eyes and smile. Don't have much to say what exactly I said because I just complimented and the moment I could talk any further, the fridge (yeah her girlfriend) pulled her aside and took her somewhere else. I didn't feel bad neither I felt good, more like get into the zone. BTW approached her in a public art festival, big crowd but not so much noise that you can't hear what the other person speaks. 2nd approach: Post the art festival, me and my friends hit this pub (very popular in our city), I see this girl across my table wearing the most elegant outfit. She was in group of 3 girls, figured I could maybe utilize the defusing strategy to avoid the same result from my first approach i.e "fridge protecting the snacks", so I walk up to the group and ask Me: "Excuse me, I have a quick question... you all are friends right?" Grp: "Yeah" Me: "And you'd never wish bad about your friends, right?" Grp: "Yeah" Me: "Great, because I find your friend over here very beautiful and she is wearing one of the most elegant outfits" (proceeds to then talk to her and isolate her) "What's your name?" "Nice to meet you [her name], I'm [introduced myself]... listen my friends over there are waiting for me, so I'm gonna make this quick... I find you attractive and would love to take you out sometime soon" She: "Sure" (with an expression like "whatever") Me: still not flinching from her reaction, I proceed with... "Cool, so give me your number so we can get to know each other and plan something exciting" She: "I don't giveaway my number" Me: "Aww really? You fear I'll kidnap you?" (she and her friends all laugh) "good thing is I gave that up long time ago, so you're safe" (they all laughed again) She: "No" Me: "Alright, take it as a compliment then. Have a great night y'all" Still the rejection didn't affect me. If I hadn't approached maybe I would've kicked myself of not pushing myself out of my comfort zone, so yeah... open to any inputs, where I went wrong, what I could do better etc :)

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23M from Mumbai, India. Have decent profile (not comfortable sharing my pics here but I'd rate my pics 6 or 7 /10) I get low to decent matches like 1-2 a week from 7-8/10 looking girls. Have been using PWF text game and Alex's online dating framework. While it did help me get one short term relationship in the past, but over the course of 2 years using Hinge I've found the women on the app to be absolute useless, flakey, low-interest, validation and text buddies seeker. Things go good from opening to building investment to screening but the moment I try to optimally soft close... these women get cold feet and then unmatch or simply ghost. Ofc as Alex says no women is going to say that she's there to seek a relationship or a fuck buddy, you essentially have to qualify her and build that investment to eventually move things in any direction you like, but in all seriousness there needs to be some lay-up of texts from the girl's end and some level of interest. I know our country and our culture is not very sexually open and receptive so I'm very careful about escalating things and when I do (only with those women whom I've met irl ) it's also very socially calibrated. I'll also admit that my only source of meeting new women right now is on hinge (please don't tell me to also use tinder and bumble it sucks even more because they don't even open after matching) not because I'm too pussy to interact but because of my work sched and other priorities in life. I do intend to attend a few concerts and hitting some pub with friends in coming few weeks but I really doubt if things will be better there. Anyone else from same city or same country going through similar shit?

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