Comments by Vedendra Persaud
Joined 6y ago3 Posts (+5), 8 Cmts (+2)
It really depends on the expectations and the frames you set. Also remember, if you can't handle what she's giving you right now it will grow over time. Being with women should be a win-win, where the girl is experiencing emotions with a great guy and the guy is enjoying time with the girl. That being said, it looks like you're her thrapist here. You're not suppose to solves these problems for her, that's on her. If you don't want her to complicate your life move on.
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Thanks for these tips. That's an interesting way for a Push/Pull, I still need to wrap my head around it. Can you explain the difference between a routine and a sequence? I know what you mean about not moving the conversation forward. Once I bring up my dog, we just start talking about him and not "us".
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Hey Alex just watched the sexting video. Overall I got that I need to ease into it. Would it be smart if I can bait her into it, if she side steps? Using lines such as "My passion include ___, You're just my type, or even more explicit lines such as "Giving women multiple oral orgasms?
I also see that I should pull back into it and have her invest. To test compliance/baby steps using lines such as "You're such a tease" or "It's a bit R rated"
I can also break this down and just leave her wanting more.
Can you give me alittle more feedback on how its too long winded?
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Nice persistance! Some good value here. Unfortunately the image texted didn't go according to plan. If you stick on being short and simple I think you can get your desired outcome.
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It depends on alot of stuff because every girl is different. First think about how the interaction went and how the sex was. If the sex was not good and she felt used then she probably won't come back. Also think about what you want and what she wants. Girls may box you in the boyfriend or the lover category. Or she can literally be very busy (most likely the case), just be patient and experience other girls in the process.
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I understand how you're feeling, dealing with general anxiety is frustrating. However, you have to accept that its there and that everyone has it. Many of the coaches here had and dealt with it.
To progress, it depends how you feel. Start slowly, try talking to more people not just girls you find attractive. Anybody will do and this is the time to practice conversation and eye contact. After, try joining groups and hobbies you like and start talking. Eventually you start easing your way and you can start approaching attractive women.
This will take time depending on how much effort you put in. But you have to take responsibility and do things to improve. Be humble, let go of your ego and put yourself out there.

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Ya Alex I agree that I shouldn't be in that frame, it can come off as needy where I want to impress her. Still have to work on switching or changing my mindset when it comes to this.