What to text a girl after you didn’t fuck on the date?
Hi lads,
Just went around to this hot girls house from Hinge to “spoon”
Turned up she was wearing nothing but a baggy T-shirt and lace panties that I could see clearly, quite slutty. I was there on her bed for about 1hr, she was on her phone a lot but we vibed while we got closer to each other -I had my hand around her at one point. She then suddenly hit me with “I’m gonna go to sleep” and ordered me a Uber.
I tried to go in for the kiss before the Uber turned up, which she said “ I don’t feel well” and turned the other way
The Uber notification came saying it was outside, I said “kiss me” which she said “no” I said “ah okay” then swiftly left for the Uber.
What would you do next here?
I think fucked up by not escalating quick enough. She was like a 9.5/10 party girl type. Annoying cos I packed a tie in my bag that I didn’t get to tie her up with ahah.
What would you do/text here?
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Yeah man I think the issue here is that you were on HER BED for an hour without going for the kiss. This probably wouldn't have even been a problem if you were watching a movie or just chilling on a sofa, but in this context I think you were too slow and she lost interest.
I usually go quite slow the first time to make sure we vibe fully and build up to it as much as possible, then from there on out change it up a bit. Is this bad game?
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You tell us... did you in fact vibe? Did you build it up?
What "build up" feels like: she keeps trying to kiss you, she's grinding against you, you can feel the pattern of her panties on your thigh
What "no vibe" feels like: she's on her phone the whole time, you put your arm awkwardly around her for a bit, you want to kiss her and she's not into it
Building up is fantastic game but don't bullshit yourself about whether you were actually doing it
Tbh if you don’t sleep with them on the first date it’s over. So just start talking to another girl. You can definitely try to get her on a date again but tbh I would put my energy to another girl
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Yeah man. I definitely think that as well. The fact that she invited you to her place, was barely wearing anything, and had you sitting on her bed very heavily suggests she was dtf. You probably dilly daddled too much on the escalation and she got bored. Unfortunately, I don't think there's any amount of textgame that would save it at this point. I would just learn the lesson and move on at this point
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Thanks man, you always reply with respect and give a few lessons in there. The girl unmatched me from hinge so I definitely turned her off by not perusing quickly.
Have you got any advice on when around at a girls house? (I’m used to inviting them over)