Good question, but definitely not a easy one to answer. A lot of it really comes down to being able to "love yourself". Basically the reason people seek external validation is because they feel a deep lack and subconsciously feel that if enough people approve of them then that lack will go away. The goal is to make a conscious and subconscious shift to valuing your own validation above others. So for example if you bang a chick much hotter then you already have, you care more about the inner feelings of happiness rather then bragging to your friends. You simply feel content with your own approval

How do you make this shift happen? It's not easy, but a good place to start is to completely cut off all bragging and telling people about your "victories", atleast for a few months. This will completely starve your subconscious of external validation and force your brain to look elsewhere, which will be hopefullly inwards. Also, becoming very goal oriented is another good step. Consistently setting goals for yourself that you then accomplish will give you a sense of pride and inner fulfillment. Consistently doing that will give you a sense of inner accomplishment. Lastly, I recommend avoiding measurement of yourself by anyone elses standard other than your own. This means that if your parents think it's important for you to have a high salary, but you think it's more important to do what you love you don't let there standard dictate how you feel about yourself. PS banging a lot of hoes will also help :)

Well, it sounds like there is an underlying issue here that even the perfect text won't fix. And that is that the girls aren't "hooked". Probably because youre playing it too safe during the interaction, not being polarizing, and being too nice/friendly. Of course not every number I get leads to a date. In fact it's less than 1 out of 3, I could tell some chicks are attracted but not that attracted however, it's rare that girls give me their number out of niceness. That's bc I leave no doubt about my intentions and come off quite polarizing.

The text you propose sounds quite butthurt to be honest. You gotta keep in mind the girl doesn't "owe you anything". Youre treating her like a close friend or a girlfriend, when in fact it's just a random girl you had a quick interaction with. A much better text would be something like "look if youre not into just lmk and I'll stop trying". It gets the same point across, but is much less needy and butthurt.

Youre very likely needy with the hotter girls, simply because you view them as a scarce resource. You havent banged many and don't have many in your life (no offense meant, most guys are like that). Say you had a dozen of 10's hitting you up every single day, I guarantee your neediness would naturally go away within a matter of days. So this really comes down to just being conscious of your behavior and then banging more hot girls so that your subconscious realizes theyre not that scarce and that there's more then looks that makes a girl "attractive"

I'd be curious to see the conversation leading up to this, because you really shouldn't be getting these kind of messages or atleast not often. I'd respond with something like "I did (devil face emoji)".

You could say "Yeah, but they're leaving soon...". White lies like this are ok as long as it's not something that really matters (and this definitely doesn't)

Think of it like a shit test, just respond back with something that matches her low investment "Yes" or "Si Chica"

No, say "what would you like to know"

I live in Miami lol and yes tinder is definitely popular in the US. However, when you travel to SE Asia or Colombia your SMV gets a huge boost do to sexual arbitrage and thus you get way more matches. Then when you go back to your home country your DHV goes back to baseline and you get much less matches. This is probably the main reason so many white guys move to Thailand, they get too addicted to having an endless supply of easy pussy available at a finger tip.

I don't like to use canned openers for either day or night game. Typically, I go semi-direct with whatever comes to my mind first. For instance, I'm walking to the post office and see a hot girl I walk up next to her and say "Want to go on a romantic date with me to the post office" while at the same time showing her my envelope. I'm at a grocery store and I see a hot girl with a full shopping cart I go up to her and say "looks good, what's for dinner tonight". I really show intent though with my body language and eye contact. The girls response will be based on how attractive she finds you and how your sub communication seems (confidence, determination, etc) rather than the exact words you say (as long as the words aren't extremely creepy or too "out there"). For night game I typically go right up to the girl, square up and just say "Hey, I'm Alex". Basically just assuming that she's been waiting to meet me. I find that one works the best. If she is sitting, I will pull up a chair and sit next to her and then say that. Sometimes, I fuck around with it and if a chick is by herself, looking bored I sit next to her and say "Hey babe, sorry I'm late". You get the picture

Your really hook by having strong body language and good eye contact much more then the exact things you say so I try to focus on that. A big DHV/Hook for me lately has been telling girls that I'm a sex coach, works quite well. Here is a more easy to replicate example. If a chick looks latina, I'll take a educated guess at what country she's from and more often than not I'm right. And if I am it will be a slight DHV. Then I'll ask her what cities she's from, she will say Medellin for example and I will be like "Ah a paisa" (local term for girl from Medellin). She will be like "how did you know that" and clearly intrigued that I understand her culture, then I will amplify it by nochalantly saying "Oh, I've traveled to Medellin a lot for work". That will spike her interest even more and she will ask me what I do. Then I will fuck with her and say "soy narco mi amor" (this means I'm a drug dealer my love) she will start laughing and I will have dhvd myself even more on humor, then she will ask me what I really do and I will say "I have a business that involves a lot of travel" (which further dhvs me) you get the picture....

I'm curious man, what is this carrier that you have that does not have unlimited text? Either way, find one that does and switch to it. Being able to text without worrying about the cost of each message is a must in 2019. Once you do that, just switch it to text. Or you can try asking her what app she uses to communicate, but honestly if she doesn't have whatsapp/viber she probably only uses text,facebook messanger and or instagram.

I would treat it exactly the same as I would any other lead, unless she actually brings up the boyfriend over text. Also, when you meet a girl at night time I definitely recommend a phone number over instagram, or a combination of the two, an IG close at night can be extremely a waste of time. In terms of what text to send now, I would just reference either something that you guys talked about/joked about or something that it seems that she's into like "Ah you never told me you were into xxx"