We met up once at a nice Italian bistro near her hotel, where she stays weeknights north of me. Weekends she's south of me with her dog and 22 year old daughter.
We went back to her hotel lobby and had one more drink, her adult daughter was texting her to make sure she was behaving lol but we had a great make out session with some built in humor around a concierge seeing us. Back on bumble I told her what a great time I had and she replied the same, then we moved to texting. She's a bit older than me but looks amazing. She's definitely more of a traditional career woman than I usually date but she was super into me, investment and connection and now, nothing. We even talked how ghosting sucks and it's so easy to show basic courtesy to anyone who isn't a horrible date. Anyway important to note All that happened before this text thread started
Advice??
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Update: this is a lil stalkerish on my part but it appears that for the 2nd week in a row, by looking at location on bumble, she has not been up to work 2 hours north of her home at all. She hasn't budged from her hometown for 2 weeks. She didn't unmatch me. Last message of mine was a quadruple text "I genuinely didn't think you were someone who just disappears for no reason"
Yeah, I like her. I want to see her again. Should I just move the fuck on, or does this info change anything? Seems like something bad could have happened with work or her personal life
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I get that u like her man but its time to move on. She hasnt texted u since september 29th. Even if something bad did happen (lets be honest the chances of that are like 5%) but even so, if she cared and liked you im sure she would be able to take 2minutes in the past 14 days to text you back and inform u of her situation
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First and last points very valid. Been almost 3 weeks since she responded. And yeah, takes 40 seconds to respond.
Chance something bad happened?
-her Dad died unexpectedly in July
-she has a 30 year old son who wasn't supposed to live past age 21
-she hasn't been up to work in weeks
That's part of why I think I've been over the top nice even when she ignored, aside from my own challenges and areas that need improvement in text/OLD game. Hoping Alex sees this too and has a thought
I agree with Jan 100% but also slow down on emojis, they make your texts look feminine🤷🏼♀️😊✨
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Thank you for the feedback bro. Hmm will think about it. Owen Cook says he uses a shit ton of emojis. Honestly, may be other factors, but I used to be a zero emoji texter and I get better results now, but my game is constantly improving so (shrug emoji) lol. Food for thought.
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You sent extremely long texts and your follow ups were super needy as well unfortunately. Take a look at some of the videos on guides on texting on the yt and my free website
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Yes I know, her Dad died unexpectedly in July, her 30 year old son nearby wasn't supposed to live past age 21, and she hasn't been to work in weeks by checking her bumble location. Doesn't that change the perspective at all? Thanks so much for responding man
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How about "I genuinely didn't take you for the ghosting type"
A little harsh? Destined to fail? Any alternative comments you can think of. Been another 3 days since my last text with no response
Edit: or maybe "being ghosted sucks. But I'm not jumping to any conclusions. Realize some major life stuff could've come up. I hope nothing bad happened "
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Last screenshot.. the problem is you just keep giving her validation and positive attention even tho she ignores u.
If a girl ghosts you, dont reward her with "good morning, thinking about you etc". Instead use a takeaway earlier.
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Thanks for the reply. What would a takeaway text be to a woman in her late 40s who you've met, gotten to know somewhat well, has shared a ton about herself and you made out with already?
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At this point "i genuinely didnt think you're one of those that just disappears for no reason.."