Texting feedback please
Context: During my work trip, took the number of cute, shy, tattoos over hands coffee shop girl, after short conversation. I noticed to her that she behaves timid but I know she has very wild side when she opens up. She agreed that it is exactly her. She told me that she leaves in that City. Took her number as a plan to have a drink during a week. In two days I was going to spend another day in that city which is 200 miles from my base.
The text conversation is within 48h and the day after I was staying in that City for a day.
Please feedback and point the visible mistakes, (what would be better respond to her text about me being over confident)
(translation from non English language)
`Me: Hello Julia, nice to meet you today :) Raf
Her: :)
Me: Hello trouble
<24h later>
Me: if you shy, I will understand
Her: No I am not shy. But You are probably over confident. ;)
Me: Confidence is the result of successes and experience
Her: Non in every situation being over confident is something good. But if this helped You get some experience i get some success congratulations.
Me: I believe in the Law of Attraction, that being positively confident attracts similar energy together. And You?
Her: And I regardless believe that being positively confident TOO MUCH is not good. It is known that everyone wants get in life as much as it can, and goes forward but we have to set limitations to ourselves
Her: Even if you do something good, positive, we need to know when to stop. Not let us get mad.
Me: Julia, if you don’t find me attractive I can stop trying? Sunshine You :)
Her: So You are trying to get something? ;) you should know that not only looks matter for me. As they say from good looking plate you won’t eat much, but from ugly one you don’t enjoy eating. Do you know this saying?
Me: You can only find out about this when you know/meet someone in person, Me too I worry if you are not secret feminist who waits for the possibility to poison a man, dismember i bury somewhere ;)
Her: Sometimes I want to do it ;) but you have to know one more thing. I am not looking for a boyfriend :)
Me: Great, we should split bottle of wine in my romantic apartment
Her: Great, Maybe one day. Before I have to finish cooking for my fiance in my mega romantic studio flat. Bye. Have a nice evening.
Me: What about a pint of beer in the pub ?`
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You aren't even reading what she is writing, just writing what you want to write. You are just begging for humiliation.
Thank you for feedback, would you state exactly point when I missed, what should I address
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Your lines "Me too I worry if you are not secret feminist", "Great, we should split bottle of wine", "What about a pint of beer in the pub" did not follow from what she wrote at all.
For some reason you double-opened. If you've set a tone of "Hello, nice to meet you today :)" you can't go again with "Hello trouble". This conversation was weird from the start.
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From what Alex teaches you should be closing when the girl is clearly interested and investing in the convo. But this girl was antagonising you. After you asked for the date she rejected in a sarcastic way because she wasn't interested from the start, so your beer invite just showed you didn't understand that she wasn't interested. I think you should not have explained the confidence stuff, could have said something funny to change the topic.
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First off, this girl sounds like a fucktard, so good riddance. Second of all, yes! your textgame is pretty bad man. Honestly, I'm not a fan of pretty much everything you said. First off, you don't need to justify and rationalize your confidence. That's like if someone tries to shame you for being straight, you can be either like "Fuck yea! I love pussy" or "Well, you know, that's just the way I was born and I'm open minded.. and umm..." You get the picture. After she said the first thing about you being overconfident, I would have responded with "Would you prefer if I were shy and timid?". Let her attempt to defend her retarded frame, instead of you trying to fit into hers.
Secondly, it just comes off as if you want her way more than she wants you. She's the buyer and you're the seller. Like you really want her to like you. For instance, when she says "I'm not looking for a boyfriend", that was not the time to escalate. A much better response would have been "Good, neither am I" or "Who said I want you to be my girlfriend?"
Thirdly, your takeaways don't really make sense, when she went on that monologue about setting limitations and what not, talking about attractiveness made no sense. A much better play would be to just challenge her belief "So, we should strive for mediocrity?" or "Nah, life is too short for mediocrity"
Hopefully, this helps you in the future man. Let us know if you have any follow up questions
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Thanks mate, value prescriptive advice
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Happy to help man