Talking to her for weeks then suddenly flakes and ghosts

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Pretty damn long, details interactions with this girl over 3 weeks. Thinking she's either a virgin or met someone. The way the interaction has halted, i would think its point of no return. However she has invested heavily so i think there is still a chance. Any help would be much appreciated.

Started talking to this girl over 3 weeks ago on bumble. She had just turned 18, I'm 23 myself.

She pulled me onto snap pretty quickly after the "ill give you my professional opinion on your booty on our date".

She showed strong interest in meeting me for our date calling me handsome, cute interesting ect as we talked and the weeks went by.

I kept pushing back the date to see if i can sexualise things first, plus wasnt the best time. She side stepped any sexulisation with "OH really" or some other side step.

Me: I'm sorry but I have to ask because of your age, are you a virgin?

Her: I wish

Me: good so it's not that

Her: not what?

Me: your not afraid
Her: who said I'm not afraid
Me: well I hope your not because you have nothing to be afraid about

Her: it's just funny what kinda girl do you think I am (someshit like that)
Me: sex is a main activity that guys and girls get up to so I don't treat it as taboo

Her: I get that but I don't like talking about sex because that implies that's what we're gunna do when we meet and I don't know if I'll sleep with someone until I meet them. If you just want sex that's fine just say that's what you want

Me: I already told you what I want, a good time with a cute girl. That's either just sex or getting to know someone I don't mind

Her: good answer babe
Are you going to sleep

Me:yes, goodnight.

Ghosts me for a couple days
I'm thinking she was pissed I didn't continue to sexualize after but not too sure at all
I'm thinking she could be one of them innocents age and all

Finally get her on the phone for the first time
Get to know her much better.
Tried to question her on why she is so shy and innocent with her bumble profile saying something casual. She claims she didn't know that meant hookups and downloaded it to meet people on another state while on holiday. So then I explained to her why I was sexualizing so much, because her profile gave me the go. And plus she was on a fuck up. Next day deletes her bumble account.
Call her a bit later and ask her why she did that, tells me "some fuckwit" told her it's a fuck up and the people on there were pretty much lames. But she finds me interesting. I kept her warm telling her we will talk again soon to set up the date.
Texted me out the blue to meet up. Wasn't a good time for me so I ignored her and called her 2 days later to set up a date.
Had a decent phone call but first 2 calls were better than the last one. Got her to send me photos cos I joked I forgot what she looked like and she was very hot. I played it cool over the phone. Told her I'm glad I know who I'm talking to now. Set the date told her I'll pick her up.

This was a Monday, I hit her on Friday and she's responsive but then starts flaking.
Me: looking forward to finally seeing you
Her: me too
Her: I have my friends bd party on Sunday tho
Me: it's Saturday tho
Her: it can't be Saturday because I'm working that day and wouldn't have agreed to it so not my fault

Me: was definately Saturday
Me: I feel like your half flaking on me and half trolling me
Her: I'm not trolling
Me: are you free this Saturday?
Me: I'll call you tonight
Her: having a nap, call me after
Me: 100%
Her:Xxx
Me: can I call?
No response, usually responds pretty fast with a call set up.
Wait 10 mins
Me: if your too bust to see me tommorow, I understand another time.
This is through text so I I can't tell if she's read or not.

On Sunday hit her with a snap and a voice note.
Ignores for days and then just opens them.

I text her to face time me, I think she's unsure, not comfortable with the idea of meeting me.
Ignores for days
The next weekend I send her a playful voice note pretending I think her phones been confiscated by her mum start it off by talking her telling her about the time my dad confiscated my iPad for days and belted the shit out of me every time he got a message he didn't approve of. Then "talked" to her mother about how me and her didn't meet the best way but I find her different and how I really like her and want to get to know her on a fun date and I'd look after her. Then spoke directly to her saying " if you just don't like me anymore, I didn't take you for a time waister you seemed very straightforward so if your not interested lemme know and I can stop trying"

She opened that one pretty fast and responded
Her: I'm sorry I'm focused on myself rn I'm not interested in meeting anyone ore getting to know at the moment.
Me: you seemed to really want to meet me and seemed to like me as much as i like you. If your unsure let's talk about it ASAP, I'm dissapearing at the end of the month
Otherwise I understand
Her: I'm not unsure I'm just not interested in meeting anyone now it's not what's best for me. Understand? I'm being genuine.
Me: just making sure this wasn't the case, it would be a shame to let any momentum we've built up dissapear.
If your too busy I totally understand
Her: it's nothing you've done and I would love to meet you in the future but right now it's not what's best for me.
Me: well I'm glad it's not but you've done a complete 180 so I had to assume somethings up.
I'm not too sure we'll have a chance at meeting too far in the future but let's see what happens.
I never imagined being scorpios would make our love this difficult. ( pretty bad text it was referencing her talking about us both being scorpios when we first talked on the phone).
Left it on read

Now mans left with his dick in his hand. This was the hottest most interested girl I have pulled so far. I'm so lost on what the next step is or if it's point of no return.

I'm thinking about hitting her in a week and a half with a
Hey trouble or yo sexy and then ask her when we can talk. Any suggestions?

Cheers

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avilench . Avatar

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Well. You took waaaay too long to meet up. You had to put your foot down and make the meet happen. Not text weeks before making these happen

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I was trying to sexualize beforehand plus bad logistics but your right. I kept trying on snap with some clever take aways.
She's blocked me, thinking of sending the friends revival text.

Me: yo sexy
Still content on being strangers
Her: lol
Me: have you become aesexual or something
Her: wtf
Yeah 100%( think she went to search it up lol)
Me: well you don't seem to like men anymore
Her: (lots of laughing faces) I can't be fucked with men rn
I do like men
And I'm not Aesexual
Me: you don't know what your missing out on (insert name)
If that's the case I'm guessing you wouldn't want to be alone (thinking emoji)

Ignores me

My Voice note: yo sexy, and I mean that. if your not aesexual quit acting like it and let's hang

No response

you know I really like shy girls and here you are acting like one".

Her: I'm removing you off snap you play too much

Text her number

Me: your very cute and adorable, but the excuses....what's your concerns?
You either have a man which is fine or cold feet.

Her: me telling you I'm not looking for any sort of romantic relationship serious or not is not excuses I'm telling the truth no need to waste your time.

Me: no expectations at all
You could be a 200kg Indian scammer for all I know
Just looking to meet someone I find very interesting

Her: I'm definately an Indian scammer and you were too hard to scam so I'm giving up bro

Me lol if I was strung on by an Indian scammer this bad I would kms
Watchu saying tho let's meet up as just friends tho see what happens.

Wait a bit

Me: would be quite anticlimactic if we let things end here.
The girl I got to know was more adventurous than this
Call me if your free

No response

Hit her with a voice note in a couple hours saying I can tell she was inexperienced and very mature and I like both but she's acting pretty damn immature right now. I understand, your nervous but without some genuine concerns we can't make this work so tell me what's up. Telling me shit like you don't want any sort of male interaction and your aesexual doesn't cut it unless you can get on the phone with me and tell me these things and tell me what changed. Told her I'll call her on an hour.

Went to call and I was blocked.

Should I try the friend revival text or is this point of no return?

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avilench . Avatar

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"Nervous about a phone call?"

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