Super invested to no response. Need a good plan to salvage.
Excuse the geeking out on paranormal shit đ ainât too often you find a super attractive girl whoâs into spiritual stuff like this and it was just there as an opener...but yh, as you can see she was super invested in the conversation and then no response. I waited a day before clarifying the âisland girlâ question since not all people get that but no reply yet.
Any ideas on how to navigate this one? She may just be caught up with life and work and itâs too soon to try and message again obviously, but I want a solid plan so I donât fumble this due to poor text game like I have done a few times recently.
A follow up I thought of was âDidnât realise the ghost hunter could become a ghost as wellâ ? Or is that too confrontational ?
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15 Posts (+3), 479 Cmts (+240)
Straight up, this conversation was not doing anything to move towards a date/meet up. This was a platonic conversation between friends and spent too much time on the topic of spiritual/ghost.
She probably got bored of the conversation or another guy was able to get to her first.
Yh I should have closed earlier maybe by saying Iâll reveal more stories on our date send me your number etc. But her last message seemed proper engaged still, and tbh what I sent was basically the whole chat so it was still early. I still havenât got a response to my last âif your shyâ takeway on Saturday but sheâs in my list still and hasnt unmatched so maybe Iâll drop one more in a day or two.
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Regardless, I think less chit chat/overly worded messages and just get to the point, move the conversation towards a date, add some flirt/sexual tension.
Right off the bat, your initial response "when I see you" should be "on our date"
When she replied if you've been ghost hunting, instead of taking something so literal/wordy, just say "no, but I would enjoy a cute girl like you as my tour guide" or "yes, I have been, I'm willing to be your handsome ghost tour guide"
(i think you get my point)
Iâm still waiting on her to send her number. Iâve attached a screenshot of the last exchange we had a week ago. I eventually offered her my number, not sure if there was any point in it tbh but itâs done. Do you think I should just be patient or use one last takeaway?
On one hand in her voicenote she said sheâs down to exchange numbers herself, and she was very invested in the voice notes answering a lot of my questions like the island girl stuff...but at the same time taking this long to respond ainât the most positive thing.
Any suggestions for a takeaway?
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Still waiting on her to drop the number/text me, since I followed up a few days after by sending mine just in case. But balls in her court now and weâd be entering needy territory if I send anything else tbh.
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Just some tips, don't use "Am i right?" either make it a statement or a question not both IMO
She asked you an open ended question, just answer it and don't ask her a question directly after, let her reply to your answer
I don't get why you called her an island girl and then also corrected it to caribbean afterwards, just seems soo wierd, but maybe im missing context.
But to answer you quesion i think âDidnât realise the ghost hunter could become a ghost as wellâ is actually good, if not a little chessy, id use that
The island girl is basically me guessing if theyâre from the carribean. I usually just add the am I right as a way of them replying back, itâs a question and usually has a high response rate. Either they confirm it and I go on to tell them about my interest in their culture or they correct me with âno Iâm actually (insert ethnicity)â which opens other doors depending where theyâre from.
I actually sent a if your shy message yesterday still no response so Iâll leave this one for few days before hitting the ghost one as a final takeaway. Iâve had way less engaging convos with girls that lead to number closes so Iâm confused how this one didnât get closed already.
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it's more that she asked about your hobbies and you answered and then went "wbu? you seem like an island girl" which doesn't make sense, to me atleast, kinda just fcks the flow of the convo
I'm still very much again using "Am i right?", it just come off as so anoying (to me atleast) "wbu? you seem like an island girl" is just as 'powerfull' if not more than "wbu? you seem like an island girl, am i right?"
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She finally replied apologetically offering to send her number along with a few voice notes so weâre all good. Gotta close that number now. I just told her send me your number before our romance is lost on here.
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In a surprising turn of events! That's great. Be more succinct and direct this time around to push for the date/meet up.
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Yh I thought given our interaction it canât be done already, since I closed numbers with way less chemistry, but you never really know, I like this one a lot sheâs just my type physically, so letâs see how it goes. I got some big decisions to make when it comes to my dating goals tbh. Some of these girls Iâm dealing with if they can pass the tests (which ainât easy) could be the mother of my kids, theyâre that fine. But thatâs a threat for another day.