Snapchat

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I know that most of the older guys here are against using Snapchat to get with girls, but I actually think that it's an underrated tool that offers a lot of benefits when compared to other means of communication.

For one, Snapchat is way more fun to use than traditional texting (for both parties). In my experience, it's way easier to keep a conversation going and flowing. Secondly, it's an app meant for pictures and it's socially acceptable to send them even somewhat randomly. For example, if you say you "just hit a workout," it isn't weird to then send a snap of your body with a pump. If you have a good body, you'll get a positive response 90% of the time. If you don't get a positive response, the picture disappears anyway and she will forget about it which leads me to my next point. It's easy to be forward on Snapchat. Any text you send will be gone in 24hrs and any picture you send will be gone in 10s, whereas messages never disappear through traditional texting. The point is that it's a lot easier to recover from sub-optimal messages because they disappear and the girl you're talking to will forget about them soon afterwards. If you give it enough time, they will probably even forget about you, and at that point, it will be easy to reengage.

One of the things Snapchat has taught me is how replaceable men are to them and also how petty they can be. I've had multiple experiences of girls sending me nudes and then forgetting who I am when I reply to one of their stories just a couple of weeks later. I can't even imagine the number of men these girls talked to in between us. Also, leaving a girl on opened or delivered (even just for a day) almost always results in me getting blocked or unfriended so I try to either keep the conversation going or send them a random snap to get them to leave me on opened.

This leads me to my next point, reengagement is especially easy on Snapchat. Girls will post thirst traps when they are looking for male attention or want to fuck. They also have more ways to send you choosing signals, for example, they can add you to a private story, send you random drunk pictures, or post stories trying to bait you into replying. On the flip side, it's also a lot easier to tell when a girl doesn't like you or is wasting your time, for example, if she posts stories while you are on delivered or opened, or if she sends you pictures of the ceiling instead of her face, etc etc. So in this way, Snapchat is more time efficient because it's a lot easier to know where you stand with the girl you're messaging.

I also think it's easier to get a girl's Snapchat than her number. I will always ask for both and almost always get just the Snapchat username, which I actually prefer at this point anyways. I will say this, Snapchat probably isn't going to work for you if you're older than 30. I'm 26 and had Snapchat in high school along with every other high school kid at the time. I grew up with it and so did my peers, so it's normal for me or anyone younger than me to have one, which isn't the case if you're 35+. I will also say this, it's very easy to ruin your chances (at least in the moment) with a girl you're messaging. In the same way that one bad Tinder picture can ruin your profile, one bad selfie can make a girl lose interest entirely. Make sure you have at least a couple of angles where you know you look good and stick to those. Don't send too many snaps and keep it to mostly texting. That being said, if you do fuck up, you can just dead the conversation, move on to other girls, and then in a month or so you can reengage when she posts a thirst trap and she probably won't even remember you.

I've had multiple experiences where I was able to reinitiate conversation and hook up with girls that I matched with months and even years ago. After a while, Snapchat just essentially becomes another dating app, because all of your matches from Tinder, Bumble, etc that were interested enough to give you their Snapchat username are pooled into the app. This generally makes the experience easier, because these girls are very likely to have a high initial attraction to you. You can then be targeted in your approach and catch them when they are horny. Good luck out there šŸ‘Œ

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Thanks for the post. I'm older and still trying to figure out the role snapchat plays. I have several chicks on my snapchat now that I've met on Hinge/Bumble.

Do you post stories or directly message chicks? Do they care which one you do?

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I don't post stories personally, I don't think it's that effective. You can take the occasional mirror gym selfie or beach/pool selfie but it's unlikely to get you anywhere and more likely to make you look douchey.

My typical course of action is to message her immediately after she gives me her Snapchat username. If you were having a conversation, just continue it, if she sends it to you a day or more after you ask for it, then just start up a new conversation.

If we don't speak for a couple of days, I might reengage by sending her a snap or will wait for her to post a story and reply to that depending on how often she posts stories. Generally speaking though, the best time to reengage is when she posts a story of herself. When a girl does this, she is purposefully inviting male attention. She might even be posting it for you specifically so that you start a conversation with her, so don't overthink it too much

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