Should I drop this or persist?
I matched this cutie on Bumble but she seems to have had a change of heart regarding dating. Wondering what the best course of action is. I’ll include all the screenshots for full context.
I don’t think “What exactly are your concerns” works here as she’s addressed them.
Not sure whether or not to take a logical or playful approach.
Was thinking something along the lines of “we’ll have plenty of time to chill with our friends this summer, as long as you don’t propose to me on the first date”
Feedback is appreciated. :)
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Your game is good overall except for a few things. Unfortunately you ran into a prude++ and these things happen. To persist or to not persist is a personal decision for you to make.
The one criticism that I have is that everyone in this forum seems so eager to jump into a rant about how much over hookups they are at the merest hint of a doubt from the girl. In my opinion, you're qualifying yourself way too much when you do that just to fit her frame.
When she said "I don't move forward..." I'd have simply asked "why is that so?" and get to an underlying root cause. As a man you should be unapologetic about wanting to fuck a woman. Your frame should be "I want to fuck you, but that's not all I want from you". Hope this makes sense.
That’s actually a fair point bro. I’ll try to be more conscious of it in the future. I’ll probably let it sit for a few days before I say anything. Obviously I don’t want to hang with her 24/7 so it seems a silly objection imo. Nothing to lose anyways. Thanks man.
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yeah man this one is a lost cause your going to be very unlikely to turn it around over text
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I think it started going downhill when you pushed on about the doctor thing and then even tried to argue it with logic Lol.
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When you said “that’s a practicality imo” is when her responses shifted following that.
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Dude, your instincts are good, but you have to learn to be more succinct. "I guess we'll find out..." just leave it there. "No expecatations..." Just leave it there. I think this will be very difficult to revive, but as played; "dont be sorry. that's one hell of a summer"
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Thanks for the feedback. I agree, sometimes I talk more than I need to, I appreciate you bringing it up to my attention.