She Gets Off and Leaves
20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
Haven’t had this happen before. I got her off with oral and fingering. She wants me to cuddle a bit while she enjoys the after feeling. Then I ask her for a blowjob or handjob and she says she has to run. It’ll probably happen if we meet again, this was just the first date, but I feel like sex should be somewhat reciprocated. I know I’m not owed anything but it seems a little rude.
Thoughts on seeing her again? What would you guys do?
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
Yeah that's either weird or just very narcissistic. I never go for oral the first time with a woman, I want to be inside her ASAP. Then I could go down on her later. My perspective is that sex can get better with someone over time, but in another sense the 1st time is always the best it will ever be. That's my genuine paradigm.
If you see her again, if you even want to, I'd stick it in right from the outset.
Another thought is you probably shouldn't have asked, rather just turned her over and penetrated her, obviously provided that she did not say anything to the contrary of consent, where you already were having sex of some kind. But yeah, her response and leaving abruptly is def a red flag you should not ignore
20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
I’ve never had a problem starting with oral. Working up to sex I like to give her an orgasm with oral, then get her to get me really hard with a blowjob (if she’s down), then go for the lay. For consent, I don’t pull out a contract, I just ask something like “want to take this to the bedroom?” or say “I want to fuck you/be inside you so bad.” Just want to avoid a bad date assault allegation.
As far as this woman, she isn’t worth the trouble. I have dates lined up for each night this week so I’ll just play the field.
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
Once it's clearly on I would go for regular sex before going down on her. Once you're inside her, the power dynamics change. It's not sunshine and rainbows to think like that, but it's true.
how did it go down? like what did you do to get it started and did you just ask for a blowjob or handjob as I could see that killing her mood.
also how she followed up could give better insight, if she did follow up with you?
20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
On the sofa after making her feel comfortable, making out, heavy petting, she got on top of me and I took her shirt and bra off, foreplay, then I pulled off her jeans and underwear after telling her to get on her ass so I could eat her out.
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Yeah. You won't see her again. That's why I don't recommend making a girl cum before sex. She got her pleasure and doesn't have to add a new body to the notchcount. Has happened to me and indian pe a few times
20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
You’re totally right. She didn’t ghost me at least but she said she wasn’t feeling a second date. First time I had an issue with this but I’ll remember to just have oral as tool for foreplay instead of end play. Don’t want to be her lesbian date.