Recovering from seeming too clingy after asking a date to spend the night after sex?
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Hi guys,
Hoping for some advice here!
Had a woman from Tinder over for a second date for "piano lessons" at my place and we ended up in bed. Afterwards she wanted to head back to her place to sleep but I asked her to stay the night. Staying for the night after sex is just what I'm used to previously mostly for practical reasons without much further meaning to it (other than possible morning sex...) no matter the location, how casual the relation or stage of dating - and I was concerned for her as it was late and bad weather.
I realize that in doing so I probably came across as too clingy/needy or moving too fast and thus turning her off - as her response was she found it too early to be comfortable with. We had great chemistry otherwise and I want to see her again but with no specific expectations - prefer regular casual over one-time stuff. I did not get any hint that she was only looking for a one-night stand before this and we talked about continuing to see each other (e.g., salsa lessons in exchange for my piano lessons).
I sent a basic (probably cringe) follow-up message and day later and got clear less interest from her response compared to previous interactions (i.e., short replies, no follow-up questions, limited excitement):
Me: "Thanks for yet a fun evening, Piano Girl š¹š„ Did you survive the thunderous rain?
Her: "Thank you for taking the time to learn the song for me š«¶ I survived... it was super heavy rain BTW š§"
Is there any way to recover from this and how would you handle it?
Address it in some playful manner to take the pressure off? Not adress it at all?
Open up for a next meeting vaguely with no time frame? Or test her interest - and at least face rejection - directly by suggesting a time for the next meeting?
Put it all on hold for a few days?
Just realize this was a one-off thing and move on?
Or am I overthinking all of this?
PS: Admittedly, I had some stress-related performance issues, but did get her off twice, we were open about kinks, etc. So part of me wants to "do better" on continued meetings as I know I have done before - but I know of course can't always count on this if not for a stellar first impression.
