Re-engaging with a chick I matched with months ago who is now open about being sub looking for dom
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Matched and got her phone number and snapchat about 3 months ago. She deleted all the apps soon afterwards. With 2 or 3 days of texting, I couldn't get enough investment from her to secure a date so I moved on. Now she's back on the apps and her profiles are different -- now she's direct about being a sub and wanting a dom.
When I saw she re-downloaded the apps, I sent her a picture (via snapchat) of her bumble profile and said "Found this chick on bumble. She looks like trouble so I haven't decided how to swipe yet". She responded with "Lol I knew I should've re-downloaded that".
So I have some initial investment and now I know she's a sub and is looking for a dom (I think I fucked up by being too passive the first time, thinking she was more conservative, so she got bored and stop engaging with me).
I'm not very experienced in D/s -- how can I proceed with getting her interested? I can proceed by text or maybe keeping it casual through snapchat, since she seems receptive on there. Maybe a suggestive or d/s meme through snapchat to see how she responds?
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Perhaps I should directly call out what she did. She probably got frustrated with her first set of matches so she deleted. Then came back on the apps directly stating what she wants. Apparently she must have not gotten what she wanted the first time since she wasn't direct. Need help phrasing it as being the solution though.
Maybe something to the tune of: "Couldn't find a strong enough guy the first time around?" We should meet over wine to discuss what you're looking for"?
hard to say without seeing the current text thread?
have you matched her on bumble
personally not a fan of snap but did you typo "Lol I knew I should've re-downloaded that" with shouldn't?
either way, I'd just keep convo going, with like
are you from here originally
or
what do you like to do for fun around here
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That's how she wrote it, "should've re-downloaded". Not entirely sure about what she intended to be honest
I'm not a fan of snap either, but I went back to my original text thread and it was me doing a triple text with takeaways. She intentionally ghosted me so I feel like it would be awkward trying to start something back up via text -- that's why I was thinking of more of a hail mary play via snapchat (something related to d/s/sexualization), and if it doesn't work out then I'll just work on other leads. I can't lose any ground compared to where I am now.
I don't think "are you from here originally" etc, will work -- I'm pretty sure small talk is what made her ghost me in the first place.
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I would watch some of our videos on sexting and how to be dominant on youtube.