Post first date questions I could use some opinions on
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So for background, I matched with a girl on Facebook dating, and through the great product that pwf is I managed to get her on a date. She said she's not rushing into anything and the night before the date she told me how nervous she was since it's been so long since she's been on a date.
The date:
We went to a brewery and I think it went great. Lots of flirting, she was playing with her hair constantly, kino was mainly touching her upper arm and forearm and a little bit of thigh. At one point she mentioned how she got a tattoo and rolled up her sleeve and put her arm right in front of me making kino extremely easy. Very relaxed body language. We also had great conversations, lots of laughs. I didn’t get to go in for the kiss and I really wish I did because I know she would have taken it well. I texted her later saying I had a great time and would love to meet again sometime. All she replied with was “thanks for the drink again!”. Not the best reply but tomorrow I’m going to see if she wants to go out again. Side note, this was my first date in a long time too so, I was very nervous myself, and if you can't already tell I'm pretty new to this. I'm also interested in getting into a relationship with her potentially.
Questions:
My main one is, how bad did I screw myself over by not going for the kiss? In hindsight, I should have gone for it cause I'm 99% positive she would have been up for it. I mainly didn't because of her saying how nervous she was and I didn't want to put more pressure on her than I had to and how she's not rushing into things.
Kind of part two to question one but, should I tell her that I didn't go for the kiss because she said how nervous she was and I didn't want to put too much pressure on her or should I just forget about it.
Last question, the date was Saturday (11/14) I'm thinking about asking her out again tomorrow (11/16) is that too soon to ask or no?
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first welcome to pwf man glad your enjoying the product.
second it will depend on the girl, generally speaking a womene ill lose attraction if you dont make a move. Its almost always better to go for and get rejected, rather than not even try. Ive had some dates where i would have to try 5-10-20 times to get the kiss, but the half an hour later we were having kinky sex.
three, no! you never want to justify yourself. Dont start explaining or rationalizing what you did or why didnt do something.
four, before going for the second, you got to get the conversation going again. I would probably give it a day or two then reengage her. Get a bit of a back and forth going beffore going for the meetup a second time. You can check out the video i have called "how to text a girl who you didnt sleep wuth on the first date" for more info on this.
Hope that helps man! Keep up the progress!
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Update help, I watched your video. I texted her an inside joke from our date and then did a bit of banter. I told her we should go out again and she said “okay!! That’d be nice”.
When I stated what we would do and when, she never texted back. It’s been a day and a half. Any thoughts?
EDIT: I was thinking about reopening tomorrow with a picture of my cat (she loves cats) and saying happy Thursday.
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No, don't tell her why you didn't go for the kiss. Yeah that might be a little too soon. Invite her straight over for wine for the second date. It should be an easy close.