Playing ''hard to get chick'' or just low interest ?
74 Posts (+15), 177 Cmts (+53)
Chick: 20, said she only had sex once when she was drunk, open minded, seems to play hard to get.
Info: Got her number in the club last week, she always took long to respond. Went on a date on monday, was pretty long, she seemed into me, was constantly teasing a second date, but gave me these ''I am not easy vibes'', i sexualized pretty good and got physical, tried to kiss her a few times and she always turned her head away.
At the end of the date i tried again, she turned her head again, i say:,, playing ''hard to get'' i see.'' to which she responds :,, You need to work for it'' and kisses me on the cheek and we part ways.
We text and she responds within 24 hours on the first exchange where she agrees on a second date again and takes 3 days on the 2nd exchange and just leaves me on read, the text was :,, I hope you will deliver with your dance-skills. ;) (we talked about going to dance) Are you spontaneous enough to go on second date this week or is that going to be too stressfull since you fly to x for christmas ?''
She is going to be on a 2 week vacation and i probably won't see her again before january.
My question is: I she just playing hard to get or is it low interest ? And if she is playing hard to get, how to proceed ? Should i reengage since she left me on read on and it has been 3 days already ? What to text in these 2 weeks ? Should i wish her a merry christmas and happy new years ?
I got some chicks in my rotation, but she is really my type and i would like to date her.
Any advice is appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
20 Posts (+26), 146 Cmts (+86)
Some chicks have rules for going slower. It's really all over the place
I have kissed a girl within 15m of meeting her, fingered her within a few hours but then she refused to have sex for like 5 dates xD
I have also had a girl say she didn't want to kiss on a first date but we talked about sex & her kinks openly. And before I fucked it up it felt like we would have had sex when we kissed (potentially on the second date).
So don't worry too much about it.
Don't make the mistake of pushing too much though
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
She was asserting some frames on you that suggest she didn't see enough value in you. She was probably attracted to you but she didn't see a concrete reason to be the chaser and hence put those frames on you. Also, because you didn't bang her, it's even more difficult. On the date, I would have shown sexual authority. That you love sex, enjoy making a girl cum and then fucking the shit out of her. All sober and that you'd take full control.
You could re-engage but I wouldn't expect much because she isn't invested in you and you are currently chasing her